My name is Jennifer Smith and Unveiled Wife is my personal blog. I am a Christian, a wife and a mother of one. These are my three most important priorities in life, in that order.
Unveiled Wife launched in March of 2011. I first began this blog to share with other wives the struggles and the healing I encountered in my first few years of marriage. By God’s grace it has grown into much more than I could ever have imagined, reaching women from all around the world joined together in our community of .
I believe that if you want a thriving marriage, you must be intentional about it.
My passion motivating every post is to encourage other women in their role as a wife, focusing on the foundational principles about marriage revealed throughout the Bible. I write on faith, marriage and motherhood… and the occasional random post that may not fit perfectly into one of those categories.
My goal is to create an atmosphere where women feel safe to share their marriage experiences, find encouragement and affirm each other.
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My Statement of Faith
- I believe the Bible is the inspired Word of God and is authoritative and infallible in the original writings.
- I believe in one God, eternally existent in three persons: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
- I believe in the deity of our Lord Jesus Christ, in His virgin birth, in His sinless life, in His miracles, in His vicarious and atoning death through His shed blood, in His bodily resurrection, in His ascension to the right hand of God the Father, and in His personal return in power and glory.
- I believe that faith in our Lord Jesus Christ is essential for the salvation of lost and sinful people.
- I believe in the present ministry of the Holy Spirit, by whose indwelling the Christian is enabled to live a godly life.
- I believe in the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and eternal life.
- I believe in the spiritual unity of believers in Jesus Christ.
In January 2007, I said “I Do” in front of 300 of our closest family and friends. The commitment didn’t seem absurd or difficult at the time, I was head over heels in love… and we were both eager virgins:) Our excitement and anxiousness to get married fed our courage to say those two little words! We were invincible and the center of attention for a few short hours. After the party dissolved and we made our getaway, the reality of our responsibilities as husband and wife sank in, as well as the truth about sex!
The first four years were wearisome, trying, heartbreaking and even devastating… as far as our sex life goes. Most of the other aspects of marriage came easy to us. However, marriage was not designed to exemplify how to be a best friend or even perfect roommates, it’s a depiction of the INTIMATE relationship between Christ and the church.
Our intimate moments of sex consisted of mostly foreplay and self-stimulation. The act of intercourse was nearly impossible for me, as excruciating pain inflamed my lower regions. When I say we tried everything, we pretty much tried everything! We both had desires to be fulfilled sexually and we sought out many different ways to try and make it happen. However, disappointment set in as time began passing us by and our situation did not progress. Hopelessness incurred daily, as our lack of intimacy forced us into isolation. We researched what we could on the Internet, I begged my doctor to give me bad news, and we even compromised boundaries during our pursuit. We knew that something was keeping us from experiencing sex, but we struggled to find even a clue.
Despite the doctors telling me I am as healthy as can be, pain seized my body during almost every sexual encounter. I began avoiding intimacy with my husband and eventually he stopped pursuing me, injured by the blow of my rejections. There were a handful of times over the course of 4 years that sex didn’t hurt as bad, but it was definitely far less than satisfying.
During the first few years of marriage I didn’t want to talk about my issue too much with others. I had insecurities welling up inside that I was an inadequate wife, unable to please my husband. I convinced myself that others would judge me negatively. We were also traveling missionaries and most of our relationships were short-lived. I didn’t feel like there was enough trust within the relationships to share such intimate details. Although I felt as if I shouldn’t share with others the struggle we were facing, there were a few divine appointments that came up where my husband encouraged me to seek guidance, advice and prayer. I did find enough courage to briefly share with a few people, but it never served as a solution.
I was threatened by the thought of my marriage coming to an end.
In the middle of 2010, God captured my heart. He pursued me and revealed Himself to me in ways that were very personal. I responded by surrendering all of myself at the foot of His throne. He forced me to dig through my heart and take care of things that I had hidden away for years. He brought me through a process of transformation. It wasn’t an easy or quick process, but I am so thankful, because where I stand today is a much better place, both in my heart and in my marriage.
The biggest breakthrough my husband and I experienced happened in November of 2010. We firmly believe that God heard our cries to experience a fulfilling marriage and He responded in a miraculous way. He brought my husband’s attention to a facial cleanser product that I had been applying daily for nearly 8 years. After researching the ingredients in my face wash, we discovered that there were a handful of harmful chemicals in the product, including parabens. I immediately stopped using anything and everything that contained parabens and within 3 days I noticed a difference. Within a week, my husband and I experienced an easier time during intercourse and within a month we were able to enjoy sex, pain free!
We do not know enough about parabens to determine if they really were the root cause of my body’s discomfort, but the noticeable difference it made after I switched my products was enough to convince us. So if your wondering if parabens might be affecting your body, please do some research for yourself about parabens so you can make your own conclusions. Also, despite the change in my body, there was a ton of mental and emotional walls that I still face when it comes to sex. After four years of associating sex with pain, I still have some anxiety that hinders our ability to have satisfying sex every time we initiate. So even if you decide to switch your products and notice a change, be aware of your mental and emotional state towards sex and understand that healing takes time.
I began this blog to share my journey as a wife, unveiled, uncovered and wide open, to purge my heart of the pain I have encountered AND to encourage other women in the world who are, have been, or will soon be wives. Marriage is an interesting and complicated relationship and no one should feel like they are going through it thinking they are the only ones with their problems. I want this to be an open forum where women can ask questions and share experiences in an effort to be heard and get advice from each other. So please join me as I dive head first into my life as a wife and the lessons I am learning.
- Jennifer Smith (Unveiled Wife)
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