Writen by: Unveiled Wife On September 26, 2012

Annoyances In Marriage

Have you ever experienced a tormenting annoyance that gnawed at your patience?

Annoyances In Marriage fights disagreements in marriage encouragements for wives Unveiled Wife

For the last few nights my husband and I have been startled out of our sleep by the pitter-patter of a rat crawling on the other side of our wall.  It seems like 4 am is the best time for this little pest to make the most amount of noise possible.

To say that I am incredibly annoyed and disgusted by the presence of this rodent is an understatement!

The evidence of his presence has been building up for a couple months now; doppings left around the house in random places, stashes of food found in dark crevices, and chunks chewed through wood or carpet just to name a few.

As one finding led to another we realized there was a problem that needed fixing… and quick! After identifying what the issue was, necessary steps were taken, in which we are still in the midst of. Our goal is to catch the pest! All the while anxiety over the issue plagues my mind daily. I doubt I will find rest until this problem is solved.

So let me ask again:

Have you ever experienced a tormenting annoyance that gnawed at your patience?

Perhaps you have experienced the torment of a destructive creature in your home… or perhaps there is something gnawing at your relationship with your husband?

I felt that using this picture of a rat roaming the house, being destructive, is a great illustration of the sometimes annoying torment that couples experience in marriage.  Until the problem itself is identified, we wake up to frustrating feelings that lead to arguments.  Slowly by slowly patience is attacked and we are left with an eroding relationship.

Annoyances in marriage can be a catalyst for other major issues to ensue.

It is so important to identify the issues in marriage and then take the necessary steps to solve them.  I do not know what each of you struggle with in your marital relationship, but there are many resources out there to help you!

Also, don’t be discouraged if you make strides to solve the problems and they recur.  Despite how many traps we set out… the rat has yet to be caught.  It requires patience, endurance, and perseverance.  

What are some of the annoyances you have experienced in your marriage?

Are there any you have successfully overcome with your spouse?

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  • disqus_b49pXYdFW3

    My husband is an online poker addict. He is also an isolationist and what Cloud & Townsend would call a very unsafe person. He had a crappy childhood (abusive) and then was in the Vietnam War. His relational skills are minimal (good at courting but after we were married, downhill from there). I have been through porno addictions, casino gambling addiction with him, leaving me after 6 months of marriage (“I don’t think I can do this” is what he told me — I’m his 4th wife). Last May he got so mad when I confronted him about the online gambling, he threatened to kill me. I called the police and filed a report. He’s going to counseling with a VA counselor who has little backbone. His “marriage” therapy is to now say ‘thank you’ to me when I do something for him, but if I try to have a conversation with him about anything important or marital, he snarls at me and calls me names. I have recognized that I was somewhat co-dependent (I did so much for our marriage in the beginning) and that I developed some unsafe behaviors as well. So now I am working on me. I have no idea (but trust God) if my marriage will survive. 18 years together; 13 of which married. I am focusing on God and myself right now and not concerning myself with him or our marriage. Get my side of the street cleaned up first.

  • anonymous

    How about a husband who humiliates you in front of others? :(

  • http://unveiledwife.com/ Unveiled Wife

    That’s cool! Thanks for sharing!

  • KTH

    Praying for you and your rodent problem.  We live in the woods and had issues w/mice and got a device from Home Depot that you plug in and the sound drives the rodents away.  You and your pets cannot hear the noise.  No death of animal required. 

  • http://girlsrunfaster.com/ Amanda Danae

    I work full time and I’m taking classes full time… definately rough on our marriage. Pray for us if you think of it :)  

  • Heavenhoneybee

    Yes I have an annoyance gnawing at my nerves and it’s my husbands cell phone. I know he has work to do that requires him to use his phone often. I get so aggravated sometimes that I want to really jerk the phone out of his hands but I know that will make him mad so I try to do other things while he is on the phone. I have told him that it bothers me but I continue to get the same “well baby i have to do this work for my boss”  and I am to the point of wanting to curse. I don’t know what to do. I see it as being insecure a little bit too but this is getting on my last nerve!!!!!

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