Writen by: Unveiled Wife On July 3, 2012

Comparing Your Marriage To Other Marriages

Comparing Your Marriage To Other Marriages encouragements for wives Unveiled WifeIt is dangerous to compare you marriage to other marriages.  It can lead to a discontent heart and arouse feelings and responses towards your husband that are not motivated my love.

It can be very tempting to compare your marriage when your friends are bragging about their husbands, but it is possible to remain content without comparing.

Check out a way to stop comparison in its tracks mentioned in my guest article posted at RooMag on The Comparison Crisis.

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  • Kp

    That woman in the picture was me!!! sitting alone and upset looking at the happy couple!I love my husband very much. He is not very open around people, so when we go places together it seems like we are not very close. We don’t act the same way we do when we are alone. For a while this bothered me because I would see my brother and my other family having affectionate marriages in public, and I would dwell on it so much I would start to only see negative about my husband. That is just the way he is, I knew it when I married him and I cant change him only God can!!! I have prayed about this for a long time and God has tendered his heart and he does realize that sometimes I want to feel special when we are around others, I know that it makes him uncomfortable to show affection in public, it was just the way he was brought up, but he is really trying now!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Rita-Emerson/100001353227119 Rita Emerson

    I agree with the article. You shouldn’t compare your marriage with any one else’s because their’s is always going to look better especially if you are having difficulties already. Plus you have no idea how much they have ‘worked’ on their marriage…so you are getting only a part of the information. We also have a tendency to get jealous over someone’s ‘happy’ life and that festers inside. Like the old joke goes “the grass is always greener on the other side…so water your own yard”. Just my thoughts.

  • http://unveiledwife.com/ Unveiled Wife

    I understand your point of view, but I would still have to say that comparing is a dangerous thing to do.
    Galatians 6:4-5 “Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself, without comparing himself to somebody else, for each one should carry his own load.”

  • Anonymous

    Why not encourage comparison?? What if your husband is terrible and it’s the only way for you to see how bad your relationship is?

    Or, better yet, be positive about it all. Go ahead and compare and learn from the the comparison. This seems like insufficient advice.

    How about this instead – Go ahead and compare your marriage to others. But don’t get caught up in superficial comparisons. Think about what makes you happy and use a comparison to expose how you might strengthen your relationship. Don’t get trapped by playing in a competition, but focus on happiness and learn from others.

  • http://www.facebook.com/crazycajungirl Regina Camp-Cozad

    I am guilty also! And I really have an amazing husband! God has truly blessed me!

  • keltrinswife

    I am so guilty of doing this :( and my husband has so many good qualities. I will put this into practice. Thank you for sharing. Be blessed :)

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