Do you remember early days of dating? You would do anything together. It didn’t matter. The point was you were spending time together, getting to know each other.
What about after you are married or have been married a long time?
Do you find dating harder? Maybe there is more stress or responsibilities in the form of kids, aging parents, or job responsibilities. Or maybe you feel like you are fresh out of ideas.
Since I became a mom, dating my husband is a lot harder. Planning a date, booking a sitter, and lack of funds and energy can not only feel overwhelming, but exhausting. However, I believe that dating is essential in marriage. If you exercise to keep your body in shape, think of dating as keeping your marriage in shape. I am not just talking about sitting at home on Friday nights after the kids go to sleep and renting a movie or catching up on TV shows. Yes, that works sometimes, but that can get old. Dating is just as important when married. Going out on a date can give you a break from the hurried life. A time to breath. A time to reconnect and remember why you got married in the first place.
So, I made a small list of some fun date ideas that will get you out of the house!
- Festivals/fairs–Where I live, there are A LOT of them during the summer. Search for one in your state and see which one looks the most interesting and go.
- Museums--Look for deals. They may offer a discount or free admission one day during the week.
- Visit a park–Get outside and enjoy nature. Have your husband push you in a swing or go for a walk/hike. Bring a lunch or snack to enjoy afterwards.
- Go to a concert–So these can be pricy if you want to hear someone famous. To save money, check out smaller venues where you live. See what band they are hosting or if you live near a college, see if they have any cheap concerts you may enjoy.
- Restaurant–If you want to go out to eat, but want to save money, try to find a place that does half-price appetizers. You can also just go out for dessert. This can also be a good time to try a new place or go where you don’t think your kids would like it. The point is to converse and not have to think about chores.
- Zoo–It isn’t just for kids. This can be done leisurely.
- Amusement Park–This works if you like roller coasters. If not, you may want to skip this.
- Sporting event–Ok, I know I might be the minority here, but I like sports. (Seriously, my husband takes me to baseball games). However, if you don’t like sports and you surprise him with tickets to watch his favorite team play, you will be the best wife ever! Now, something else you need to do here–try to enjoy it. Please, do not file your nails, scroll through your phone, knit, read, etc. (You may as well stay at home). Please–just be with your man. I guarantee he will appreciate it more and let’s face it, how many romantic comedies has he had to sit through when he would rather watch ANYTHING else? If he plays sports,(softball league for example), go to his games and cheer him on. Men love and appreciate your support. If he golfs, go to the driving range with him one day. Again, the point is to spend time with each other.
I understand some of these might take up an entire day. Personally, I love date days. I have a little more energy than when we go out in the evening. If there is some travel involved, don’t listen to the radio the entire trip. Take this to to talk about what you are looking forward to when you reach your destination. Afterwards, talk about what was your favorite part. When I surprised my husband and took him to the Pro-Football Hall of Fame, we talked about our favorite exhibits. (Yes, OURS We both love football.)
If the date is during the week or you seem too tired to go out, try to psyche yourself up. Think about what you want to wear, how you want to do your hair, or maybe send a text to your husband about how excited you are to go out with him. Your husband and marriage are worth the effort. If time seems to be an issue, than see where you are too busy and see if you can cut something out. Ask God for guidance if you need it.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. -Proverbs 3:5-6 (NLT)
What are your thoughts? Do you have date ideas or what was your favorite date? Would love to hear and maybe take away new ideas.