I know there must be many wives who have or still do care for a sick husband. Whether your husband is sick with just a virus/cold or a long-term illness, I hope this guest article by Linda encourages you greatly! If you have any additional advice or encouragement for wives dealing with a sick husband, please share your insight in the comments below!
Having a beautiful picture of a loving and healthy husband with kids is every woman’s dream.
Sometimes, this perfect family doesn’t always happen exactly the way we wish. This is simply due to the fact that life is always evolving and sometimes we get what we never bargained for. You may be prepared for this if you are already aware of his health concerns before marriage. However, if it’s a sudden situation, where you never prepared for this development in regard to his health, it could be one of the most challenging times for everyone.
At the beginning, both of you would question each other and of course God. This is when the popular cliché “Why me Lord?” comes in.
Do not be despaired because Psalm 103:3 says “…who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases”. God is aware!
Also, Samuel Johnson once said,
“Hope is necessary in every condition. The miseries of poverty, sickness and captivity would, without comfort, be insupportable”
Keep hope alive!
So, what next when dealing with a sick husband?
Well, this is what I think you should do, as a wife, this is the time you become the pillar, his strength and the rock for your home. The children being aware of the situation depending on their age may be worried. You would not want to give them a more scary picture about their father’s health.
You should evaluate the situation and know how long this would be. This would help you to plan for the future- your time, schedule, finances, and other activities so that you are there with him, especially at those important times he really needs you – hospital visits or treatment sessions.
You need to be there for him, help him with those things ordinarily he loved to do by himself. Make him as comfortable as possible and reassure him that everything would be fine. Encourage and remind him to take his medication as at when due.
Your words should be reassuring, comforting and positive. Your words should also be more to God than to man. Your words should be positive rather than negative.
This is not an easy situation, lean on positive friends and close relations that would keep faith with you. Pray with your church and your family. The Lord will be your Strength and Pillar, your Comforter and Protector. He will never fail or let you down. Remember, He is still on the throne.
You may also ask “What about ME?”
Yes, I ‘m getting to that now. You need to retreat and shed those tears and emotions you have been holding back and suppressing. Yes, you need to. That is one of the ways to become relieved and manage the stress you are going through at this time.
Make time to do some of the things you have a passion for. This would help to remove your mind from the present situation. It would refresh and revitalize you, helping you to be more stable. It’s therapeutic, and you do need that to help you deal with the situation.
Talk to the Lord about everything you feel; He knows the deepest secret, longings and pains of our heart. Once you know He is close, He hears, then there is somebody for you.
Do let go, and let HIM take over.
- Linda Aliogo