My Excuses For Not Being In A Marriage Ministry… And How I Overcame Them

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Just about every Wednesday night my husband and I are dedicated to attending the Marriage Ministry at our Church called FUSE.  It is a wonderful time of fellowship with other couples and the goal is to encourage God-centered marriages.  We highly recommend that every husband and wife get involved in a marriage ministry if their church has one! *If it doesn’t… ask if you can start one! ☺

There have been so many great testimonies that have come from FUSE. Marriages being saved, restored, and renewed. It creates an atmosphere of accountability where husbands and wives commit to living Godly lives and it gives ample opportunity to discuss important marriage topics that are otherwise a bit difficult to start up.

FUSE has changed our marriage for the better and it constantly directs our relationship according to God’s word.

If I can be completely honest with you… I do not always feel up to going to FUSE.

I ask myself WHY?

Why would I not want to go if it blesses my marriage so much?

I usually find excuses including:

It takes up too much of my time… can’t I ever have a Wednesday free?
I don’t feel good.
I don’t want to do anything tonight.
I don’t feel like sharing with others.
We are fighting and I’m in a bad mood.
I don’t feel pretty enough.
I…I…I…

But that’s all they are… EXCUSES!

What is really happening is God is using FUSE to transform my marriage and God is using my husband and I to encourage the growth of other marriages… and you know who does NOT want any of that to happen… the enemy! That’s right, Satan is prowling around looking for marriages to devour! Of course he is going to do anything he possibly can to keep us from going, especially by attacking my esteem or prompting selfish thoughts! Sometimes I fall for it. Sometimes I am weak and I give-in. But my husband is always there to remind me how important it is that we go consistently! My husband is so encouraging and I am blessed to have a man so willing to nurture our marriage!

If you are attending anything that is encouraging growth in your marriage, and for some reason want to pull away… I hope and pray that you think twice about giving-in! Remember that the enemy is prowling around hoping to get you to stop nurturing your marriage!

If you are not currently attending anything that encourages growth in your marriage, such as a marriage ministry at your church, I hope and pray that you consider going! Find something near you that will nurture your marriage relationship!

April 11, 2012
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  • http://unveiledwife.com/ Unveiled Wife

    That is GREAT!! You are awesome for furthering it by hosting!!!

  • Auntie Em

    My husband and I recently attended a “Weekend to Remember” marriage seminar and were inspired to bring it home- we are facilitating the video version of the seminar, The Art of Marriage, at our church in October. Thanks for your encouragement!

  • Heather

    So I had a response typed out…went to hit send and lost everything I had wrote! So will try again! =o) I am going through a similar situation (and my mom went through it with my dad). Although it’s with church in general. My husband does not like to talk about faith – at all. Some of his views are…worldly. If someone asks a question about God or the bible, he tells them to talk to me. My hubby does not want to submit. He’s an extremely prideful man. But I do love him anyway. =o) Recently, the Lord has shown me that I must completely give this to Him and not try to “move things along” (like I sssooooo want to do!). I stumbled across a video the other day. We are to be of a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4). Which means, yes, we should let our husbands know what is on our hearts (gently and with love!). But then we need to hand it over to God and trust Him to work on our husbands hearts (and I mean we are to leave it with God, not keep bringing it up). Believe me, dear sister, I KNOW this can be extremely difficult. I struggle with this daily! But it was once put to me like this. When we try to do things on “our time” instead of waiting on the Lord, that’s like us saying that we don’t trust Him to be able to work the problem out. And I don’t know about you but I have noticed that when I try to take matters into my own hands, hurt feelings abound. My dad is around 58 years old and my parents have been married for around 38/39 years. And, although my dad said he believed in God, I had never heard him really talk about God until the past couple of years. And he is in silent awe of other peoples testimonies. Like he didn’t realize just what the Lord could really do! But do you know what my mom did throughout her marriage? She prayed and waited. Now I’m not saying they didn’t fight and argue. They did. But with my daddy’s relationship with the Lord…she just prayed and waited. And never doubted that he would one day really see the Lord. Keep praying, dear sister. And drown yourself in His word. Love your husband unconditionally as Christ loves us. And wait…for the Lord’s timing is PERFECT!! *hugs*

  • Shelley

    I wish I had a perfect answer for you as I have struggled through the same thing for 30 years and just now am seeing some change in my husband who I’m not sure is even saved yet, but God works in his own time. Men are very prideful at times and some are uncomfortable I believe to “wrap their arms around Jesus” so to speak. They are not into opening up as easily as women are. I encourage you to continue on, don’t give up, become the woman God wants you to be and PRAY !!! There will still be rough times but God IS working, just not as fast as we want.

  • catalina

    But what about the wives like me, who’s husbands, never want to go? Can you share something with biblical advise for the wives, like myself? My husband, is just physical body and charming with our fellow couples, while pushing us to leave. At home with the study he sleeps, watches tv or works, while I read the study. I always ask my husband nicely, I have cried and have even begged for his involvment. But in turns to his verbal attacks on me not harrassing him into doing something he doesnt want or to allow him to do it in his time and desire. In 13 years that time has not come. So I pray, pray, read scriptures and head to counseling alone. What about wives like me?

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