Last week we encouraged you to Revive Your Prayers In Marriage! This week we are encouraging you to Revive Your Attitude In Marriage!
Attitude is a way of thinking and it’s reflected through behavior. It is what determines how we respond to people or situations.
Because attitude stems from perspective, it can quickly change. I am all too familiar with attitude. My attitude can change based on my experience at the grocery store or facing writer’s block when trying to come up with new content for my blog.
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Factors that can influence or alter one’s attitude can be great or small. It really depends on the person’s perspective.
Some triggers that arouse a negative attitude in marriage for me are:
-Fear in finances – I end up worrying that we won’t have enough to get us through, leading to frustrations that I take out on my husband.
-Husband’s imperfections/sins – I focus on his flaws, which stir unhealthy thoughts of doubt, questioning whether I should have married him.
-When I feel neglected by him – My selfish nature dwells on what he is lacking to fulfill in our relationship for me, instead of understanding that he has needs too.
-Overwhelmed by to-do lists – Being too busy, too often, leaves me flustered, which I also tend to take out on my husband.
Faith, forgiveness, and thankfulness can help you change your attitude.
Faith – Being able to have confidence and hope for things that aren’t seen is a positive perspective. Operating out of faith in marriage is the ability to see your spouse for who they will become, transformed through Christ!
Hebrews 11:1 “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”
Forgiveness - Mature marital love is the forgiveness of flaws and imperfections without bitterness. Sincerely forgiving is necessary for yourself to move forward in a relationship, especially if your spouse has sinned against you or even to be able to overlook the small, annoying habits that you discover about your spouse that could potentially trigger a negative attitude in you.
Matthew 6:14-15 “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
Thankfulness – Having a heart of gratitude will keep the positives in your life at the front of your mind! In marriage focus on the positives, not the negatives, such as being aware of the things your spouse does to help you and verbally acknowledging them through affirming words.
1 Timothy 4:4 “ For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving.”
As I mentioned before, there are many things that can influence one’s attitude in marriage… but remember it is all dependent on perspective! Change your perspective – Change your attitude!
The three points listed above are necessary in the transformation and reviving of one’s attitude! And reviving one’s attitude can transform a marriage!
“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” - Winston Churchill
This weeks challenge is to work on changing our attitude in marriage through changing our perspectives.
Let us remind ourselves of why we fell in love with our husbands, dwelling on the positives in faith, extending forgiveness, and being thankful! Think back to your vows and the commitment you made to be your husband’s wife, evaluating how you can fulfill that commitment in every way!
What things in marriage influence your attitude?
What are a few things that you fell in love with about your husband?
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