Writen by: Unveiled Wife On September 9, 2012

Revive Your Attitude In Marriage

Last week we encouraged you to Revive Your Prayers In Marriage! This week we are encouraging you to Revive Your Attitude In Marriage!


Attitude is a way of thinking and it’s reflected through behavior.  It is what determines how we respond to people or situations.

Because attitude stems from perspective, it can quickly change.  I am all too familiar with attitude.  My attitude can change based on my experience at the grocery store or facing writer’s block when trying to come up with new content for my blog.

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Factors that can influence or alter one’s attitude can be great or small. It really depends on the person’s perspective.

Some triggers that arouse a negative attitude in marriage for me are:

Fear in finances – I end up worrying that we won’t have enough to get us through, leading to            frustrations that I take out on my husband.
Husband’s imperfections/sins – I focus on his flaws, which stir unhealthy thoughts of doubt, questioning whether I should have married him.
When I feel neglected by him – My selfish nature dwells on what he is lacking to fulfill in our relationship for me, instead of understanding that he has needs too.
Overwhelmed by to-do lists – Being too busy, too often, leaves me flustered, which I also tend to take out on my husband.

Faith, forgiveness, and thankfulness can help you change your attitude.

Faith – Being able to have confidence and hope for things that aren’t seen is a positive perspective.  Operating out of faith in marriage is the ability to see your spouse for who they will become, transformed through Christ!

Hebrews 11:1 “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”

Forgiveness – Mature marital love is the forgiveness of flaws and imperfections without bitterness.  Sincerely forgiving is necessary for yourself to move forward in a relationship, especially if your spouse has sinned against you or even to be able to overlook the small, annoying habits that you discover about your spouse that could potentially trigger a negative attitude in you.

Matthew 6:14-15 “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

Thankfulness – Having a heart of gratitude will keep the positives in your life at the front of your mind! In marriage focus on the positives, not the negatives, such as being aware of the things your spouse does to help you and verbally acknowledging them through affirming words.

1 Timothy 4:4 “ For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving.”

As I mentioned before, there are many things that can influence one’s attitude in marriage… but remember it is all dependent on perspective! Change your perspective – Change your attitude!

The three points listed above are necessary in the transformation and reviving of one’s attitude!  And reviving one’s attitude can transform a marriage!

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” – Winston Churchill

This weeks challenge is to work on changing our attitude in marriage through changing our perspectives.

Let us remind ourselves of why we fell in love with our husbands, dwelling on the positives in faith, extending forgiveness, and being thankful!  Think back to your vows and the commitment you made to be your husband’s wife, evaluating how you can fulfill that commitment in every way!



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  • Ronda

    I love my husband’s giving, gentle nature. I have the most problem with wanting him to fix everything. 

  • http://unveiledwife.com/ Unveiled Wife

    Thank you for your encouraging words!! And thank you for sharing such wise advice! It is definitely important to take a pause!

  • http://www.facebook.com/elisa.lu75 Elisa Clarizio Urquiza

    Thank you, Jennifer! You are doing a great job. I know you said you’re nervous, but you are a natural at this. When the anointing of God is on your life it will just flow naturally.

    Our emotions are fickle and we cannot allow them to rule us. I recently got some great advice that involved learning to take a pause. And I’ve applied it to so many different areas in my life. I believe it especially applies to marriage. Instead of reacting too quickly too situations we must allow the Holy Spirit to speak before we respond so that we can say/do what God wants instead of jumping ahead of His Will and trying to make things happen on our own.

  • jobeob987

    This is right on, Jennifer. Attitude determines altitude. I’ve discovered that I can’t wait for my husband to change before I do. Change must begin with me.

    Reasons why I fell in love with my husband … I’ve always loved how he viewed everyone so positively and hopefully. He always saw the good in people. Also, for as long as I’ve known him (married 25 years this month), he has always tried to do the right thing.

  • http://unveiledwife.com/ Unveiled Wife

    That is so powerful! Thanks for sharing!

  • Mrs Rooster

    I just recently had a big blow out with my hubby of 15 years. Our lack of communications coupled with his yucky work schedule made for a really bad time. I sat on the couch and prayed for about two hours then woke my hubby out of a dead sleep to tell him what was on my mind. I knew my words hit home when my emotionless hubby got choked up. That is what got me. In that single moment, I felt the love that he has for me. He didn’t say a word. He just stood there and hugged me. Then he quietly said Don’t even think that ever again. He took my hand and lead me outside into the cool night air. We sat for like two hours. He just wouldn’t let go of my hand. The whole attitude of the house changed. It was like a breath of fresh air. He got me candy at the store while I was buying pizza. I stopped and bought him a card today. Something that I haven’t done in quite awhile.
    Attitude does matter. So does making sure things don’t build up into a HUGE thing.
    Please, go hug your spouse tonight. Sometimes they can seem so far away. Bridge that gap before you can’t.

  • Mrs G

    Amen… Im having the same issue: quality time! My attitude sucks towards my husband and im only making things worst and probably pushing him away. Needed this challenge and support!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1725492830 Doris Burd

    Te things I fell in love with my husband was his humor, love for family and Christ, his compassion, he was very mannerly, his mother raised him very well! We will be married for 13 years this Nov. and to think back on when we met each other and dating makes me realize where did the time go? Life is so short and I want to have a better attitude towards him and everything else in my life! Great challenge this week! Can’t wait to work on my attitude adjustments!

  • M.

    This post really hit home for me! I have found recently that I have a bad attitude towards my husband when it comes to spending time together. He is working on a PhD and on top of that he works at least 70 hours a week. This leaves almost no time to just “hang out” with me. However, when asked what made me fall in love with him…I would have to say one of the biggest things is his drive and willingness to work hard to provide for us and our future. I know that our current situation is not permanent. Instead of having a bad attitude about it I should be thanking God for giving me a husband that I know will always work hard to provide for his family!

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