Today the Lord put this message of encouragement on my heart to share with you!  If you or your husband are contemplating divorce please watch!

Marriage can be difficult at times.  The thought of divorce may loom overhead.  However, I challenge you to hang on!  Have faith that God will restore your relationship and transform it.  Continue to pray over your marriage daily and seek guidance from God’s Holy Word.

In the video above I mention Ephesians 4:2-3

…with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love, being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

I believe God wanted me to share this verse to encourage you to act out this verse in your marriage.  With humility, gentleness, patience, and love… perserve the unity of peace with your husband!

This can radically change the atmosphere of your marriage!

For more encouragement please check out this article ~> 5 Encouraging Life Verses For Marriage

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It is my honor to introduce to you today’s guest blogger, the beautiful, the encouraging, the lovely Rachel Wojnarowski!  I look up to Rachel, and I admire her perseverance.  As much as she dedicates time for her husband and children, she also manages to maintain her blog where she shares her encouraging voice, inspiring her readers to live with extraordinary faith.  Today she is revealing her heart on marriage and the gift of second chances.  I highly recommend that you continue to follow Rachel through her personal page or connect with her through Twitter!  Enjoy!

Rachel writes:

I’ve never heard of princess dreams that consist of the knight in shining armor chasing after another.  Perhaps they exist,

Only in the form of nightmares.

I grew up in a Christian home, graduated from Christian school, and completed the circle by graduating from Christian college and teaching in a Christian school.   Surely with so much Bible knowledge, surely with such great parental examples, the odds of divorce would be the lowest possible.  Read Full Article

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I recently received another testimony of a wife who found encouragement through Unveiled Wife while enduring a dark season in her marriage.  Her letter was very touching as she shared the pain she experienced from the threat of divorce, as well as a prayer for her husband, hoping in faith for reconciliation after adultery.  Although anonymous, this wife had a desire to be a light for other wives going through dark times.  May her words impact you as they have me.

Dear Unveiled Wife,

By reading the blogs and comments from your followers I can see many wives are hurting in their marriages. I was one of them and found hope in wives’ entries of restoration and healing. I’m hoping my story below can be of encouragement to just one person…

I posted on your Facebook page a little while ago, asking for prayer for my husband and our marriage. We endured a very dark walk while my husband contemplated leaving me and our daughter, and also committed adultery. It was the most painful and devastating time of my life. I couldn’t understand how his vows to me were no longer UNconditional, and how the hopes and dreams of our future together meant nothing to him. Most of all, I couldn’t comprehend how another woman became involved in our marriage like she had. Read Full Article

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Divorce seems to be an accepted solution to many unhappy marriages across the globe.  Unfortunately, many of those who do divorce are disillusioned and suffer a horrible separation from their spouse.  I am so excited to share this story of one wife’s conversation with God about divorce and the answer that saved her marriage.  I think the majority of wives and husbands reach a point in their marriage where they ask, “Should I divorce?”  I know I have been there.  Hopefully, those of you who are still contemplating this question will receive the same answer and peace from God as guest writer Alba did.

Alba writes:

I have been married over 20 years.  I truly believed I was totally in God’s will by marrying my husband. We loved each other and we loved the Lord.  I thought we had a wonderful marriage because for about 15-16 years things went smoothly.  We had disagreements and arguments, but it was nothing we didn’t work out.  We have two wonderful sons who have been raised to love the Lord, go to church, and serve God.  I thought things would remain status quo and I was not expecting what we were about to face.

Our marriage got tested (as I have learned, all marriages do at some point) and I got scared. Read Full Article

Dont Give Up On Your Marriage   popular posts guest articles    restoration marriage dont give up divorce    Unveiled WifeDo you sometimes feel like giving up on your marriage? I know that I have felt like giving up at least once in my marriage. Every wife needs encouragement for marriage!  Some may seriously be contemplating divorce, while others just need a little reminder of why marriage is so important.  This is a perfect guest article from Shakera encouraging all wives to have hope for the miracle of restoration in marriage.  Her message to all of us is: Don’t Give Up On Your Marriage!  Enjoy and be blessed!

Shakera writes:

It is no surprise that the devil attacks so many marriages in the world today.  It is one of the most important relationships that we as believers have.

John 10:10 says that the thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy.  When the enemy comes into our marriages he is looking to ruin generations to come, not just those in your household.  So many are affected by divorce and separation, and it has long term affects on your children. Read Full Article

Dear Heavenly Father,

My heart is broken over marriages that are facing or have experienced divorce.  May you comfort husbands and wives, letting your peace fall over them like a warm blanket.  Holy Spirit please rescue them and fill them with hope.  If it is in your will God for these couples to reconcile I pray that you intervene divinely and restore their hearts.  For those that have endured divorce, yet battle with lingering affects, please equip them to overcome and find forgiveness.  May you fill each one of their hearts with hope for better days.  Renew them O Lord, have mercy on them, and bless them.  We pray for healing in Jesus Name AMEN!

My husband and I were driving home the other night, and as we passed by billboards that stood high above ground, there was one that made me nauseous.  The advertisement simply read: “Fast divorce and bankruptcy… call this number!”  My heart dropped from my chest from the weight of a burden I felt for the people who see that billboard on a daily basis.  I am aware that there are circumstances that lead people to one or both of these routes, but I find it disgusting how our society flaunts these two options as a quick way to make your life better.  The mentality adopted in this generation is clearly a self-centered one.  We need to be satisfied fast and easy, whatever it takes.  This is a conceited approach to life that deceives us with its temporary gratifying consumptions.  The truth is that there is nothing fast about a divorce or bankruptcy, even after the processes complete,  affects of such a tragedy linger.  I found myself immediately praying against divorce and bankruptcy.  I prayed that people would not be tempted by the sign to choose either option before exhausting their efforts to reconcile their marriage or their finances.  I prayed that people would not be deceived into thinking these temporary fixes would be fast, or easy.

We have a responsibility to be good stewards of what God has given us, whether it is our spouse, our finances, our home, our children, our knowledge, or our possessions.  We are accountable.  Let us be a light in a dark world by finding joy in our relationships, despite their hardships, and finding freedom in finances by not accumulating debt.  Let us be content in God and satisfied with the good things He has given us.  Let us fight for our marriages, in faith that better days are ahead.  Let us live below our means so we can give more to others in need.   Let us live according to a Heavenly calling, so that when people see the difference in us compared to the world they will ask us WHY?  Then, let us share the light of the gospel with them.

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As I contemplated what today’s article would be about, there was one thing that kept returning to mind, judgment.  A few weeks ago Kim Kardashian announced that she filed for divorce after being married only 72 days.  Unveiled Wife’s Facebook page is a community of wives specifically existing to encourage other wives, and when the news broke about Kim K. it seemed fitting to lift her situation up in prayer, as well as all marriages who face the threat of divorce.  With an opportunity at hand to pray over Kim and pray for a radical change in how our culture views marriages, some chose to judge Kim’s decision, calling her names and posting questions such as, “Are you surprised?”

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The attitude that was apparent in some of the comments broke my heart.  Many wives did take the opportunity to pray for Kim and others facing divorce, thank you, I know God was blessed by your faithfulness.

Imagine if Kim had heard that a group of wives were praying for her during this situation, I hope that it would have profoundly touched her heart.  However, if she sought out the prayer post and read through some of the comments, seeing some of the judgments placed, I don’t think that she would have seen us any different then the thousands of others around the world who placed their judgments.  What makes Unveiled Wife’s community set apart from the world is the testimony and love of Jesus, which I hope is evident to every wife that visits the page.

Judging others is a matter of the heart. Scriptures tell us that no one is perfect in Romans 3 verse 23, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”  If no one can be perfect than we are all capable of making poor decisions that can lead to others judgment.  HOWEVER,  God warns us NOT TO JUDGE!

Matthew 7:1-2

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

Matthew 7:3-5

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

Luke 6:37

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”

James 4:12

There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?”

Ephesians 4:29

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”

John 8:7

“When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.’”

Luke 6:31

“Do to others as you would have them do to you.”

Galatians 5:14

“For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”

James 1:26

“Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.”

1 Peter 3:8-9

“Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.”

We need to be familiar with God’s word and apply it to our life daily!  We should all evaluate the attitude of our heart and be sure that we are not judging others.  Let us be set apart from this world, a light in a dark place!  If you are significantly interactive in the Unveiled Wife community, please help to keep it free and clear of judgment!  Thank you!

 

I was just reading Matthew 1:18-25 and my heart dropped when Joseph was contemplating divorce.

 “8This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. 19 Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly. 20 But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. 21 She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.” 22 All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet: 23 “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” (which means “God with us”). 24 When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife. 25 But he did not consummate their marriage until she gave birth to a son. And he gave him the name Jesus.”

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Joseph was faithful to the law, but he also did not want to expose his wife to public disgrace; for although they were pledged to be married they had not yet consummated the marriage.  Before their union, she had conceived a child.  I could not imagine the stress they must have felt wondering how to deal with this situation.  Amidst the circumstances, Joseph had in mind to “divorce her quietly”… when I read this I thought about how divorce would have affected Jesus’ life.  Thankfully God divinely intervened and guided Joseph in what he should do.

Marriage can bring up quite a few complicated situations where a husband or wife may contemplate divorce.  My husband and I struggled for years in the intimacy department; our sex life was lacking and we were not feeling fulfilled in our marriage.  At different times we both contemplated divorce, but it was a fleeting thought, as God reminded us that He brought us together for His purpose.  God gave us what we needed to stay together, and over time, as we grew closer to God, we grew closer to each other.

Have you ever found yourself Contemplating Divorce?

Did you feel like God divinely intervened to guide you to stay together?