As I contemplated what today’s article would be about, there was one thing that kept returning to mind, judgment. A few weeks ago Kim Kardashian announced that she filed for divorce after being married only 72 days. Unveiled Wife’s Facebook page is a community of wives specifically existing to encourage other wives, and when the news broke about Kim K. it seemed fitting to lift her situation up in prayer, as well as all marriages who face the threat of divorce. With an opportunity at hand to pray over Kim and pray for a radical change in how our culture views marriages, some chose to judge Kim’s decision, calling her names and posting questions such as, “Are you surprised?”
The attitude that was apparent in some of the comments broke my heart. Many wives did take the opportunity to pray for Kim and others facing divorce, thank you, I know God was blessed by your faithfulness.
Imagine if Kim had heard that a group of wives were praying for her during this situation, I hope that it would have profoundly touched her heart. However, if she sought out the prayer post and read through some of the comments, seeing some of the judgments placed, I don’t think that she would have seen us any different then the thousands of others around the world who placed their judgments. What makes Unveiled Wife’s community set apart from the world is the testimony and love of Jesus, which I hope is evident to every wife that visits the page.
Judging others is a matter of the heart. Scriptures tell us that no one is perfect in Romans 3 verse 23, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” If no one can be perfect than we are all capable of making poor decisions that can lead to others judgment. HOWEVER, God warns us NOT TO JUDGE!
Matthew 7:1-2
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”
Matthew 7:3-5
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
Luke 6:37
“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”
James 4:12
“There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the one who is able to save and destroy. But you—who are you to judge your neighbor?”
Ephesians 4:29
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”
John 8:7
“When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.’”
Luke 6:31
“Do to others as you would have them do to you.”
Galatians 5:14
“For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”
James 1:26
“Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.”
1 Peter 3:8-9
“Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.”
We need to be familiar with God’s word and apply it to our life daily! We should all evaluate the attitude of our heart and be sure that we are not judging others. Let us be set apart from this world, a light in a dark place! If you are significantly interactive in the Unveiled Wife community, please help to keep it free and clear of judgment! Thank you!
As kids we ask flower petals if our love is requited! It’s silly, but most of us took it serious in our younger years. Now that we have grown up and most of us have married, we may not pick flower petals, but we sometimes get insecure of our husbands love for us and begin to rattle that phrase around in our heads, “He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, he loves me not.”
Both parties have been wounded in some way or another and no one is willing to risk getting hurt again by initiating. It becomes a vicious cycle of pain resulting in bitterness keeping intimacy out of marriage. Couples question who’s at fault, who owes who, and unmet expectations, forcing each other into isolation.
