Manwich, is popularly known as the brand of sauce used for sloppy-joe’s, and also known as a man-sized sandwich fully loaded with a ton of meat! However, I would like to define it a bit differently! I would like to define Manwich as the process to which wives can successfully critique their husbands without any hurt feels.
Have you ever tried to critique your husband, with good intentions, hoping your comment would encourage him to be an even better man, yet it ends up in an argument?
Men will often see your criticism as a negative view of their character, they often times become defensive, and feel disrespected. There is nothing worse than leaving your husband feeling as though you are embarrassed of him. Yet, on the other hand, doesn’t it seem like pressure builds up if you try and hold back your seemingly helpful comment?
I believe being honest and transparent with your spouse is a must! Marriage is a great platform for two people who really care about each other to sharpen each other. A husband will learn from his wife and a wife will learn from her husband. Being honest with your feelings contributes to that sharpening, however, the way in which it is presented is the key!
The Manwich in marriage would look like this:
Compliment
Critique
Compliment
Start out by pulling your husband aside; never hand over a Manwich in front of others, this should be an intimate time you and your husband share, and he will appreciate the exclusivity. As soon as you are alone, begin by complimenting your husband, the more specific the better. Then, share how you feel your husband could grow by making a slight adjustment. Lastly, throw in another compliment to ease the blow of the critique.
Using a Manwich seems to be a better way to encourage growth in a man, rather than scolding him or telling him how he can be better. Husbands thrive off of their wife’s support, appreciation, respect, and value of them. If the ratio of compliments is greater than the critiques it will not be damaging to their ego. However, a Manwich should be used sparingly. Do not find every little thing you think needs to be changed, instead choose your words wisely, and pray about it before you serve it!
