Sometimes life just gets plain busy, doesn’t it? And with that busyness it’s so easy to lose site of our marital relationship. Of course when I was dating and newly married to my man, making our relationship a priority was quite effortless. But sometimes married life can become a little overwhelming with the to-do lists, the responsibilities, and not to mention the areas of our lives that are just plain hard to deal with.
Throughout my 15 years of marriage, comprised of raising and training my children, enduring family persecutions, living through health and financial storms, and being involved in ministry, I needed to learn how to prioritize my number one earthly relationship.
Here are ways that I keep my marriage a priority. Perhaps what I share here will minister to you!
4 Easy Steps to Making Marriage A Priority
1. Stay Connected to Your Source of Strength, Joy, Love, Peace and Hope.
I have to make sure my relationship with Jesus Christ is thriving. Staying connected to the Vine has nourished me spiritually and when I’m thriving in a spiritual sense, all of my other relationships will benefit as a result of this pursuit. So I fight hard and I become intentional about protecting this relationship at all costs. Ultimately, when I spend more time with Jesus, my marriage benefits as a result of this.
Remain in me, and I will remain in you. For a branch cannot produce fruit if it is severed from the vine, and you cannot be fruitful unless you remain in me. John 15:4 (NLT)
2. Have the Word of God as Your Guide for Life.
Being that I didn’t have a Christian upbringing, when I was a new bride I so desperately wanted to follow the Lord in my marriage. I quickly learned that within the book of Titus, chapter 2:3-5, there was a blueprint written out just for me (and you) in how to do this.
These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God. (NLT)
So I followed this path. Since the Word of God mentioned loving your husband before loving your children, right there was an indicator to me that my marital relationship should not be placed on the back-burner of my life when my kids entered into the world. I knew my relationship with my husband was something of great importance in the eyes of God, therefore, I sought to prioritize it.
3. Study Your Husband.
Find out what makes your man tick. What is it that you do that makes him feel loved and respected by you? What is his love language? Once you know these things, then be intentional about pursuing them and then take the time and effort to pour them into your man.
4. Just Say No.
I find myself saying no to others often. It’s not because I want to be mean or exclusive towards others, it’s just that if I say yes to others, I’m also saying no to something else, which is usually my husband or my family. Saying yes to too many requests will most likely cause me to be outside of the will of God because my life will not be in the proper, Biblical order. Ultimately, I’ve learned not to feel guilty over saying no because I know my reasoning for saying it is so my marriage will be a priority. Bottom line: the reason for making my marriage a priority is so the Word of God is not brought to shame. Titus 2:5
How do you make your marriage a priority? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please share in the comments section.