Author: Darby Dugger

  • What Are Your Motives?

    What Are Your Motives?

    This past winter, temperatures hit a record cold. In the midst of the arctic blast, I bundled up, went outside and hauled our trash bins down to the curb. It was negative two degrees (20 below with wind chill) at 11 PM, and they were predicting the temperature was going to continue drop through the…

  • As soon as I said it… I regretted it.

    As soon as I said it… I regretted it.

    As soon as I said it… I regretted it. I had been chit-chatting with a neighbor when our topic turned towards marriage. We began to share secrets for getting our spouses to do what we want. At that moment I didn’t speak out against manipulation, but instead I shared how stubborn I can become in…

  • I Can’t Be The Only One Who Has Done This?

    I Can’t Be The Only One Who Has Done This?

    Love is never boastful or proud. Love does not strut; it doesn’t have a swelled head. ~1 Corinthians 13 I would never confess to having a swelled head, but when I carefully inspect my life, my heart, and my motives, the sad truth is, I do. My pride can present itself in many ways, but…

  • Honest Truth About Communication In Marriage

    Honest Truth About Communication In Marriage

    For our entire relationship, communication has been a struggle for my husband and myself. For many, many years I have placed exclusive blame on my husband’s private nature. Over the past couple of months, however, the Lord has been taking me on a journey regarding my own communication weaknesses. I am left humbled and embarrassed…

  • Am I Praying For My Husband or About Him?

    Am I Praying For My Husband or About Him?

    Do you pray for your husband or do you pray about him? Take a minute to reflect on the distinction of that question. There have been many times when I have abused the privilege of praying for my husband. I use my time before the Lord to “tattle” on him. I tell the Almighty all about my husband’s sin life, job struggles, and (my perception) of…