Communication

Pornography Destroys These Things In A Wife

We had been married two years and things were fragile between us. We loved being married and desired that our relationship was strong. However, many expectations were left unmet. My husband and I had both hurt each other in ways we never thought we would, we said things we never thought we would ever say. Most days were ok. Yet, some days it seemed impossible to believe that we were going to make it. We each did things that required the other to have patience, compassion, grace…you know for all those little things that we started noticing after the wedding. Those little things came and went…but there was something much bigger that I wish we never had to deal with…pornography. My husband told me that

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Experience Intimacy In Your Marriage Through Transparency

My first year of marriage taught me two things about intimacy. 1.)Intimacy is not just about sex. Intimacy is about growing closer together as  a married couple. Intimacy is about becoming known by offering your heart to your spouse, while getting to know your spouse. Intimacy could happen while having a conversation, doing an activity or hobby together, serving together, sitting with one another, playing a game or anything else that allows a married couple the opportunity to get to know each other better. Sex is important and it is a great way to experience intimacy, but don’t forget about all the other ways too! 2.) Being transparent is one of the best ways to cultivate intimacy in marriage. I did not know how to

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Thirty-One Prayers For My Husband & Thirty-One Prayers For My Wife

Now is the time for prayer. We need to be spending time in prayer for one another, for marriages to be strengthened, for families to turn their hearts toward God, for change, for healing, for restoration, for revival. My husband and I started our relationship on a foundation of prayer. We both dedicated time each day to pray for each other and to pray for our relationship. We have been together for almost 11 years and married for almost 9 and I can tell you in confidence that our relationship is where it is today because of The Lord’s presence in our life and our willingness to commit to prayer. There were many times in the beginning of our marriage where hardships caused my heart

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I Am A Vessel Of God’s Love

When I think about a vessel, I see a ship sailing across a sea, no fear. I think about all that it is capable of transporting, to bring necessities, to bring nourishment, to bring hope for those waiting to receive. When I looked up the word vessel it mentioned a watercraft, but it also included a container. A vessel, strong and sturdy to hold liquid, so that it may pour out, so that others can drink. I hope that what I pour out is blessing and not wrath. Pure, true love. God’s love. Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from what is dishonorable, he will be a vessel for honorable use, set apart as holy, useful to the master of the house, ready for every good

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What Is Escapism? And Is It Destroying Your Marriage?

Escapism is defined by Google, as the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy. I did this. The reality of my marriage was one that I didn’t like and didn’t want to accept. By our third year of marriage, I was ready to escape any way that I could. I desired to numb the emotional pain that flared up because of unmet expectations of marriage and unmet expectations of how I thought God would and should bless our marriage. Our relationship was falling apart and I didn’t know how to fix it. My heart was fragile. And instead of turning to God in my despair…I isolated myself from Him. This is when I experienced and

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Forgive Him. Even If He Is Not Sorry.

Marriage is hard. Although a husband and wife love each other, there are  conflicts that arise and offenses that hurt. Without apology and forgiveness, marriages would not be happy nor thriving. What happens when your spouse does not want to apologize? What happens when you don’t want to forgive? I want to encourage you today. Apologizing and forgiving are not always easy to initiate and follow through with…but doing so will heal the brokenness in your heart and your relationship. The Word of God says, Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you

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