Divorce

Neon Lies – Don’t Call The Number, Call On God!

My husband and I were driving home the other night and as we passed by billboards that stood high above ground, there was one that made me nauseous. The advertisement simply read: Fast divorce and bankruptcy… call this number!” My heart sank in my chest from the weight of a burden I felt for all the people who see that billboard on a daily basis. I am aware that there are circumstances that lead people to one or both of these routes, but I find it disgusting how our society flaunts these two options as a quick way to make your life better. Such a lie! The mentality adopted in this generation is clearly a self-centered one. We need to be satisfied fast and easy, whatever it

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5 Lessons I Learned About Marriage From One Photo

I have a picture hanging in my bedroom of my husband and I standing in the middle of a road in Maui. We were exploring the island and happened upon a quiet road with a spectacular backdrop. I asked Aaron if we could take advantage of the photo opportunity to capture what we saw. He spent a few seconds setting up the timer and positioned our camera in the middle of the road then he ran to my side and grabbed my hand. Here is that photo: If you have read my story detailed in The Unveiled Wife book, you know that my husband and I struggled in our first few years of marriage – so much that we almost called it quits. We saw

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Partying To Praying: How God Saved My Marriage

In my book, The Unveiled Wife, specifically in Chapter 25 “The Getaway” I mention a story from my marriage where my husband and I had the opportunity to photograph a wedding in Maui. We were looking forward to the joyous celebration we would document, but we also hoped that getting away to Maui would be a time of healing and encountering intimacy in our relationship. During that time in our life, I never would have considered how to help another wife going through the ups and downs encountered in marriage. I was too self-focused and too concerned with discovering healing for myself to give any ounce of encouragement to another. Little did I know or even consider what the couple whom we photographed in Maui

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How Being Broken Sexually Almost Destroyed My Marriage

My body was broken and it hindered me from being able to have sex with my husband. We suffered for years, unable to physically connect as one flesh. I can count on one hand the amount of times we actually had intercourse in the first three and half years of our marriage, none of which were enjoyable. I tried pushing through the pain I experienced every time we tried to have sex, but nothing seemed to work.  I hate that we even referred to having sex as “trying” when all I wanted was for it to be completely fulfilling. At one point I had gathered the courage to see a doctor, fearful that I would receive bad news for my condition yet eager to find

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Dear Woman with Pain and Regret

Dear Woman with pain and regret, I see you. And I know you. I watch you walk in, and smear a smile on your face, convincing your troubled heart everything’s fine for now. How you’ve put on just the right outfit, wrapped that trendy scarf around your neck, and sauntered in, praying no one will detect what’s happening way inside. You bury your hurt deep, and have gripped your pain tight, and often believe you don’t deserve to let it go. You believe it’s your burden now, after all you’ve been through. I watch you chit-chat with the women, while you let comparisons begin to fly in your mind. They seem fitter, and cuter, and certain to be living a life far happier than yours.

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When You Need The Truth To Set You Free

My gown glides across the carpet, as I walk the aisle believing I’ll be married forever. As a 21-year-old virgin bride, I’m confident divorce will never, ever, happen to me. I kneel at the altar and say my vows, exchanging rings with my groom. He captivates me and I’m confident I’ll never be attracted to anyone else. Ever. As they announce us husband and wife, I smile at all who have come, and my mind does not comprehend how I’ll be capable of beginning a two-year affair five years from now. And if someone were to tell me I’d be divorced ten years from now, and re-married to the affair-guy, I’d call you crazy and bet my life it would never be. And although my

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