Category: Fights & Disagreements In Marriage

Is Your Marriage Being Attacked?

Attack (definition): take aggressive action against (a place or enemy forces) with weapons or armed force typically in a battle or war. I have them often. I find I usually have them right before GOD is doing something HUGE in my life. They are awful, down right horrible at times. Attacks are not something I ever want, pray for or desire for anyone…but in a weird peaceful way they make me smile looking at them through God’s eyes. I sometimes become numb in the attack and do not feel the excruciating pain because God allows me to see the attack through His eyes and it better helps me to understand why I am where I am. The enemy HATES ME! Praise GOD, the enemy HATES ME because I

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Who Makes The Coffee In The Relationship?

I must preface this article and let you know that I am not a coffee drinker, but my husband is a coffee enthusiast. With that said, I think there is still validity to this issue that needs to be addressed…so here it goes… There has been a common conflict that has been surfacing among marriages lately. I have picked up on it in conversations I have had, surprised to discover that it seems to be a sensitive issue among wives…maybe you can relate? Who makes the coffee in your relationship? You wake up a little groggy and your first stop is to embrace a warm cup of joe.  Rage stirs in your heart when the reality sinks in that your husband never made you that

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What I Wish I Would Have Known Then

Let’s face it, before we get married we are slightly naive as to what to expect. And by slightly naive, I mean extremely… at least that was the case for me anyway. I guess I had envisioned something like the traditional romantic comedy with lots of breakfast in bed… You know, where my husband would read my mind and obey my every whim. For some reason I also thought that the emotional butterflies of puppy-love would be enough to fix every marital problem. About three months in, I realized that reality was far less glamorous and my imagination had deceived me. Since then with each new season of life, I tend to drift back and think life would have been a whole lot simpler if I knew

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Do You Trust Your Husband To Take Care Of You?

This past January I took part in the Unveiled Wife study. One of the lessons really stood out to me, and I loved seeing all of the conversation it stirred up among ladies doing the study. The subject was “submitting to your husband.” I completely agree that so often, people equate “submitting” to being walked all over. This comes from a culture that celebrates and promotes being an “alpha female” and engraining into women’s minds that they can lead just as well as men. I am all for women being successful in their careers and workplaces, but I do think there is much to be celebrated about letting your husband lead your family in your home. As Jen discusses in Wife After God, you and

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For When You Need to Know the Way to Use Your Words

I walk in the room and something sets me off. I hear his tone the wrong way, assume a meaning he never intended, and respond with words I eventually regret. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.                                    Ephesians 4:29 (NIV) This is the mistake I make countless times… Failing to use my words for good, Missing the opportunity to give grace to the one who’s listening, And in the end, producing nothing beneficial from the exchange at all. So many times we get caught up in

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3 Tips For Communicating In A Relationship

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” James 1:19 The first year of marriage is hard. You are just starting to really get to know each other and are probably seeing each other’s true colors for the very first time. The first real argument that my husband and I had wasn’t even about the thing we had begun discussing. You see, the way I was responding to him and the tone of my voice had sent our little minor disagreement into our first full-fledged fight. I was angry and I let it show by my quick wit and disrespectful remarks. I felt like a child that didn’t get her

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