Marriage Issues

How I Moved On After My Husband’s Confession Of Pornography Use

I had a wife email me, asking me how I got over the pain from my husband confessing his addiction to pornography. It took me a minute to figure out how to respond to her. I wanted to share with her because I know in my heart I truly forgive my husband and I have been able to move past the offenses. I also wanted to encourage her because my husband and I are more intimate in our marriage now, than we ever have been…and I hoped that her and her husband could attain that too. I know God has healed us from the destruction of porn use. BUT, this healing took place over the course of a few years! And there were many things that

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The Zero Privacy Policy In Marriage: Do You Have It?

My husband and I proactively protect our marriage. Our love and trust for one another have grown over the years, and I believe that there are specific things we have done to foster that growth. Today, I want to share one of those ways with you. My husband and I know that our flesh is weak and that we are capable of sinning against one another. We also know that the enemy will do everything in his power to tempt our flesh to sin against one another. With this in mind, we have always agreed to keep a Zero Privacy Policy. **Side note: I never had a term to label this before, until a good friend of mine uttered these words “Zero Privacy Policy.” I scratched

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5 Lessons I Learned About Marriage From One Photo

I have a picture hanging in my bedroom of my husband and I standing in the middle of a road in Maui. We were exploring the island and happened upon a quiet road with a spectacular backdrop. I asked Aaron if we could take advantage of the photo opportunity to capture what we saw. He spent a few seconds setting up the timer and positioned our camera in the middle of the road then he ran to my side and grabbed my hand. Here is that photo: If you have read my story detailed in The Unveiled Wife book, you know that my husband and I struggled in our first few years of marriage – so much that we almost called it quits. We saw

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Do You Give Your Husband Your Best?

Throughout our marriage my husband has noticed a trend in my behavior. Maybe you can relate? I smile, laugh and engage with friends and family, only to jump into the car or leave with my husband and exhale how I really feel. My face scrunches up, my attitude turns cold, I sometimes snap at my husband with stern words or slump down with defeat. My entire countenance changes dramatically and my husband is left to wonder what is happening to his wife.  I shared about this pattern at For The Family which you can read by clicking HERE. My thought process in justifying why its ok to do this is along the lines of knowing my husband is not going anywhere, so its ok. But my

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Finding Out My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography

This is a testimony from another wife in the Unveiled Wife community who felt compelled to share the most difficult moment in her marriage surrounding the topic of pornography, passionately desiring to give others hope who are facing the same devastation! Robi writes: (This article discusses my first encounter with my husband’s pornography addiction. At that time, I felt very alone and sometimes I still feel like there are no other Christian wives that go through this pain. Yet, I know there are many wives that are experiencing this difficult trial in marriage. I pray and hope to unite wives that are going through this.)  I could never forget the exact moment my whole life became broken. It was a very ordinary day that I stumbled

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For Anyone Married To A Spouse With ADD or Asperger’s

A few wives in our community recently asked for encouragement and resources regarding husband’s with ADD or Asperger’s. I do not have any personal experience with this type of situation so I reached out and asked the Unveiled Wife Community on Facebook for some help. It was a joy to see over 200 of you take the time to share your story and add some encouragement for wives enduring a similar situation. One of the top comments on the thread that seemed to resonate with many other wives was by CJ: Hubby with ADHD here. It’s difficult. I can get in the flesh quickly thinking that he’s forgetful, distracted, thoughtless, disorganized, zoned out, can’t sit still, plays too much, is selfish at times. However, One

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