Marriage Issues

How My Husband Found Out About My Secret Affair

I will cut to the chase on sharing with you how my husband found out about my secret affair… I told him. It was not easy, in fact it was a painful experience for both of us.  We were driving in the car when the conviction to come clean overwhelmed my heart.  I wanted to stuff it down into a dark crevice never to be unearthed. I wanted to accept the lie that I shouldn’t tell him, that it wouldn’t be worth it.  I wanted to pretend like it never happened. But more than that…I wanted the brokenness in my marriage to be mended. I was at the end of my rope, grasping for security in the wrong places. My marriage was failing and instead

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What I Wish I Would Have Known Then

Let’s face it, before we get married we are slightly naive as to what to expect. And by slightly naive, I mean extremely… at least that was the case for me anyway. I guess I had envisioned something like the traditional romantic comedy with lots of breakfast in bed… You know, where my husband would read my mind and obey my every whim. For some reason I also thought that the emotional butterflies of puppy-love would be enough to fix every marital problem. About three months in, I realized that reality was far less glamorous and my imagination had deceived me. Since then with each new season of life, I tend to drift back and think life would have been a whole lot simpler if I knew

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Dear Woman with Pain and Regret

Dear Woman with pain and regret, I see you. And I know you. I watch you walk in, and smear a smile on your face, convincing your troubled heart everything’s fine for now. How you’ve put on just the right outfit, wrapped that trendy scarf around your neck, and sauntered in, praying no one will detect what’s happening way inside. You bury your hurt deep, and have gripped your pain tight, and often believe you don’t deserve to let it go. You believe it’s your burden now, after all you’ve been through. I watch you chit-chat with the women, while you let comparisons begin to fly in your mind. They seem fitter, and cuter, and certain to be living a life far happier than yours.

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3 Signs You Have To Start Saying No!

Have you ever bitten off more than you can chew? And I’m not talking about what happens when you try to eat the whole burger in one bite. I mean, have your commitments gotten in the way of your relationship with your husband? Or more importantly your relationship with God? I am a “Yes” person through and through. If someone asks me for help, or if I see there is a need; the word “Yes” just comes flying out of my mouth. Immediately afterwards I beat myself up for agreeing to yet again, something I must add to my very long to-do list. Most of the things I commit to are great, God-honoring things, but a person has limits and even if it is for the

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3 Tips For More Intimate Lovemaking

Sex according to God’s design includes great physical pleasure, but also involves your emotions and your soul. You connect deeply and intimately with your husband as you share something unique to your relationship: the sexual joining of your bodies that represents and nurtures your covenant love. But perhaps you and your husband aren’t feeling that deep connection. Here are three quick tips for more intimate lovemaking in your marriage: 1. Explore how you like to be touched. Your body did not come with an instruction manual on your wedding night. Your husband also does not have an innate sense of where and how you like to be touched. While almost all women will like certain things (for example, light stroking of her body), there is

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When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned

I am a type A personality through and through. I can make lists for days and I love having a “plan.” When I was younger I had big dreams and I loved writing in my journal. I would sit back, imagining how God was going to bless every decision I made. Life was all going to go according to my plan. I transferred to a Christian college my sophomore year and my mission was to get a ring by spring. It was my plan to find a Godly husband. I assume God didn’t get my memo because I stayed single most of college and was bitter that God was not bringing me the man of my dreams within my timeframe. Then one by one, each

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