Marriage Issues

Don’t allow past sins to mar the sexual intimacy God designed for you to have.

The Other Scriptures About Marital Sex

Writing a Christian sex blog, I’ve become very familiar with the standard passages about marital intimacy, such as Genesis 2:24, Proverbs 5, Song of Solomon, and 1 Corinthians 7. As practical-minded wives, we often want to know What must I do? and then to flip over to the well-worn spots in our Bible that give us the direct answer. “Okay, I’m supposed to have sex with my husband. I’ll add that in here right between grocery shopping and soccer practice. Check.” Yet I’ve come to believe that every scripture that applies to how we treat one another applies to how we treat one another in the marital bedroom. God wants to bless our marriages with deep, bonding physical intimacy, and His Word gives us plenty

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Ways I Support My Husband In His Job

My husband works many hours a week, sometimes 16 per day.  Sometimes he’s gone for two days at a time.  I work full time too – it’s quite a juggle in my household. Even though I don’t live out the traditional image of a stay-at-home wife and mother – serving her husband dinner as he arrives home from work, there are many ways I can still support my husband, even in traditional and biblical ways. Making his work day easier – at home. Getting coffee ready, making his lunch and having his work clothes ready to go are all ways I can help his time at home go more smoothly.  I’m going to be honest here – this is the area that I can make

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When You Need The Truth To Set You Free

My gown glides across the carpet, as I walk the aisle believing I’ll be married forever. As a 21-year-old virgin bride, I’m confident divorce will never, ever, happen to me. I kneel at the altar and say my vows, exchanging rings with my groom. He captivates me and I’m confident I’ll never be attracted to anyone else. Ever. As they announce us husband and wife, I smile at all who have come, and my mind does not comprehend how I’ll be capable of beginning a two-year affair five years from now. And if someone were to tell me I’d be divorced ten years from now, and re-married to the affair-guy, I’d call you crazy and bet my life it would never be. And although my

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How Past Sexual Abuse Has Affected Intimacy In My Marriage

Chastity was always something my parents valued. They told me I could not date until I was 16. The youngest in my class and very book smart, it was easy for my immature self to avoid dating. When I went to college, I was surprised at the attention I received from the opposite sex so quickly. In high school, I was easily overlooked. Naturally I was naïve and unprepared for the dating world. I thought the first boy that asked me out wanted a long-term, committed relationship. When he cheated on me and dumped me for his high school sweetheart back home, I was brokenhearted. The next young man had just broken up with a long-time girlfriend. He told me he didn’t want to date,

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How I Overcame Trauma And Crisis In My Life

If we are faithless, He remains faithful; He cannot deny Himself. (II Timothy 2:13 NKJV) This scripture speaks volumes about the Hope we have in God. Even when we don’t realize that hope is present, it is. Therefore, we can always live in hope. The other night, I was sitting with my husband talking about how much has changed in our lives this past year when suddenly I began to cry. I really didn’t know why I was crying because I wasn’t sad. I started to “think out loud”, as I like to call it… I began to realize why I was getting emotional. You see, I went through quite a crisis in my personal life this past year which only my husband, my pastors

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Five Tips on Arguing Effectively

(This article is in no way trying to diminish the significance of a quarrel – because the truth is some arguments are serious and carry deep wounds.  Such instances need to be handled with sincere prayer and/or the the advice and mediation of a Godly friend, counselor or pastor.) When Unveiled Wife posted the photo quote that read “If you’re going to argue, argue naked,” it gave me such a chuckle that I had to stop and reflect about what ways I argue in my own marriage. Believe it or not, there is a right way and wrong way to fight with your spouse. Here are 5 tips on arguing effectively – some were handed to us by experienced and grace-filled elders and mentors and

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