Sex & Intimacy In Marriage

Sex and intimacy are key elements of marriage and they are topics that proved to be the greatest hardships in my marriage. I am still learning the importance of sex and intimacy, and I feel there are many other wives like me who need more knowledge and encouragement in this area of marital oneness. I hope that our Christian culture will make it easier to talk about sex and intimacy so that others are aware of its relevance in marriage.

Never Let Me Hear You Say You Never…

I was reading Your Word today. Which is so amazing when I think about the following verses… In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. – John 1:1-2 For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. – Hebrews 4:12 Essentially, I was reading YOU! Not just Your words! The Bible is not just some book of old letters…it IS YOU! Thank You for that! I have been reading in Matthew. It seemed appropriate to refresh my soul on what You did leading

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Maybe I Am Not Attracted To My Husband & Other Doubts I Have About Marriage

Marriage is a vulnerable experience. Living life in such close proximity to another provides enough friction that can lead to hurts, doubts, and other frustrating emotions to rise up. Marriage doesn’t always play out how we expect it to, or desire it to.  When I was dating Aaron, I had a strong sexual desire for him. We both had made a personal commitment to wait to experience sex until after we married…which was all the more motivation to marry young. My hormones were raging and I was consumed with the thought of being with my love. A few months into marriage, my entire view of sex had been shifted. We did encounter an unusual problem from the first night of marriage – painful sex –

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The Unveiled Wife: My Family Life Radio Interview

LISTEN TO THE 3 Part RADIO BROADCAST OF MY STORY HERE I wrote The Unveiled Wife to encourage other wives who may feel isolated and alone. I wrote it for any wife who desires to draw closer to God and to her husband. I wrote it for the wife who has a strong marriage and wants to still grow. My hope and prayer is that this book continues to be a light for many. I had the opportunity to travel to Family Life and be interviewed on their radio program, sharing my story. If you want to hear me on the radio with Dennis and Bob from Family Life just click on the image above! Family Life just celebrated 40 years of ministry. So many marriages

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When Believing A Fairytale Stops You from Having One

This is a guest article from my friend Sheila, author of 31 Days To Great Sex and founder of ToLoveAHonorAndVacuum.com. Sheila opens up and shares honestly about how her husband hurt her months before they married, how that pain has lingered and what God is teaching her about it.  Sheila writes: My husband broke up with me on my 21st birthday. Well, he wasn’t my husband back then. But he was my fiance. And, with tears streaming down my face, I handed the ring back. Four months later we were back together, and eight months later we did get married. Now he couldn’t ever leave me again! But those scars of rejection didn’t heal just because he looked deeply into my eyes and said, “I

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3 Things That Can Hinder Intimacy & 1 That Can Change Everything!

The first few years of my marriage were tough. I had to learn and adjust to a whole new lifestyle as I lived with my new husband. I thought that our marriage would unfold naturally and perfectly. I was convinced that our love for each other would be strong enough to get us through anything. By our third wedding anniversary we were both contemplating a way out of our marriage. It was during this time of crisis that God revealed to me my need for Him. As conflict and stress rose up in our marriage, I turned away from God in anger. I couldn’t comprehend why He wouldn’t make things good in my marriage. That is when God got a hold of my heart and

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Are You A Wife Struggling With Low Sex Drive?

When my husband and I were dating, my sex drive was extremely high. I desired to be physically one with the man who promised to be my husband. We had made a commitment early on in our relationship to abstain from sex until marriage. It was difficult, especially the closer we got to the wedding date. We both wanted each other and craved the incredible intimacy that sex would provide. We finally married. Much to our surprise, we could not have sex. Even though we really wanted to, my body kept us from being able to enjoy it. Instead of pleasure, I felt pain. After a few weeks of trying to have sex and it not working, my desire for sex plummeted. After a whole

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