Sin & Addiction

Pornography Destroys These Things In A Wife

We had been married two years and things were fragile between us. We loved being married and desired that our relationship was strong. However, many expectations were left unmet. My husband and I had both hurt each other in ways we never thought we would, we said things we never thought we would ever say. Most days were ok. Yet, some days it seemed impossible to believe that we were going to make it. We each did things that required the other to have patience, compassion, grace…you know for all those little things that we started noticing after the wedding. Those little things came and went…but there was something much bigger that I wish we never had to deal with…pornography. My husband told me that

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How I Moved On After My Husband’s Confession Of Pornography Use

I had a wife email me, asking me how I got over the pain from my husband confessing his addiction to pornography. It took me a minute to figure out how to respond to her. I wanted to share with her because I know in my heart I truly forgive my husband and I have been able to move past the offenses. I also wanted to encourage her because my husband and I are more intimate in our marriage now, than we ever have been…and I hoped that her and her husband could attain that too. I know God has healed us from the destruction of porn use. BUT, this healing took place over the course of a few years! And there were many things that

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Finding Out My Husband Is Addicted To Pornography

This is a testimony from another wife in the Unveiled Wife community who felt compelled to share the most difficult moment in her marriage surrounding the topic of pornography, passionately desiring to give others hope who are facing the same devastation! Robi writes: (This article discusses my first encounter with my husband’s pornography addiction. At that time, I felt very alone and sometimes I still feel like there are no other Christian wives that go through this pain. Yet, I know there are many wives that are experiencing this difficult trial in marriage. I pray and hope to unite wives that are going through this.)  I could never forget the exact moment my whole life became broken. It was a very ordinary day that I stumbled

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The Most Important Phrase I Say Toward My Husband

My husband and I agreed years ago that we would say “I forgive you” when attempting to reconcile in marriage. I use to use phrases such as: It’s fine.      Okay.            Sure.                  Whatever. Okay being one of the most used of the bunch. However, if either of us ever avoided the word “forgive” the conflict always resurfaced and triggered another argument. Forgive represents resolute, finished, completed. Without the acknowledgment of that word, our tender hearts could never fully reconcile because the wounds of offense still oozing. Then we had a conversation about how words are powerful and saying words out loud carry the weight of either life or death. Words are

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My Husband Wrote An Open Letter To Pornography

When I launched Unveiled Wife in 2011, it wasn’t long after that my husband and I realized there was a huge need for husbands to have a place they can go to for marriage resources. With passion to lead men of all ages, in any stage of life they are facing, my husband tackled that need by creating Husband Revolution. I am so proud of him for teaching and affirming husbands, all that The Lord is teaching him! He also has a great team of contributors adding invaluable content for other men to grab hold of and apply to their marriages. Over the years my husband and I often exchange articles and ask for assistance, editing, or approval from one another. This helps us to

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Is My Marriage A Mistake?

I use to struggle with consuming thoughts of doubt, unsure if my husband and I were truly in love. This doubt haunted me! Those first four years of marriage were the most trying. Instead of feeling fulfilled that I was finally a wife in a happily-ever-after kind of love relationship, I found myself in amidst a combat zone defending my life and sanity. I yearned to have a perfect marriage, a perfect life… I was unprepared for the challenges we faced as a couple… I often doubted our love and wondered… Is my marriage a mistake? It is incredibly difficult to have hope in a relationship where doubt has infiltrated. I wish I could tell you I persevered and remained faithful about my marriage and the purpose

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