Research tells us that on average we process around 50,000 – 70,000 thoughts per day! For something that all of us are doing every day, all day, I thought it was important to take a deeper look into our thought patterns and to acknowledge just how powerful our thoughts really are.
With our thoughts comes responsibility. Our thoughts motivate our actions. What we think contributes to how we act and how we treat others. What we think about our spouse, contributes to how we treat our spouse.
Oneness in marriage is a vital part of God’s incredible design of marriage. Oneness is the coming together of a husband and wife through the covenant of marriage. A husband and wife being one reflects their respect for one another, their camaraderie, and their support of each other. I challenge you to consider whether your thoughts build up or tear down oneness in your marriage.
God mentions in His Word what we can do with our thoughts to help us live a healthy life. We should memorize this verse and use it as a guide to how we should process our thoughts…what comes in and what comes out:
Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. – Philippians 4:8
Our Thoughts Influenced By Media
In this devotional I briefly mention how today’s pop culture and media has a tendency to portray a stereotype of men (husbands & dads) in a negative way. I have personally witnessed many clips on tv and online that show this negative portrayal of men and how women respond to them. Sitcoms and commercials show men incapable, lacking intelligence, lazy, and impulsive. They also show women rolling their eyes or expressing a negative attitude toward the men.
Many might argue that sitcoms and commercials are just funny, and that they are not real. However, when millions of viewers tune in to see these clips, and many of them see reruns of these clips, it is difficult to argue that these visual representations of marriage, family life, and the relationships men and women share do not influence real life behaviors. I strongly believe that they do.
I believe that tv sitcoms, movies, commercials and shows viewed online contribute to and shape a person’s world view, perspectives, and behaviors. Why? Because when we watch something, we process it through our thinking, sometimes dwelling on it for a period of time. And what think about turn into seeds that mature into actions. What we dwell on and what we feed our thoughts grow to become our behaviors.
I believe other factors that contribute to negative thought patterns and behaviors include the company we surround ourselves with, books that we read and advertising, just to name a few. When it comes to these things I think it is vital to apply the verse mentioned above to help us navigate what influences we should be allowing in our lives.