Learning To Truly Love

This is a guest post by my friend Ruth Schwenk from The Better Mom! 

This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.” —1 JOHN 3:16

Have you ever felt unappreciated as a mom? Have you ever felt frustrated by your kids’ seeming indifference about all you do for them? Guess what? You are not alone. And it’s tough to love when you don’t always get a return.

Of course, at times we get a cute card, a text message, or a thank- you. But more often than not, what we do seems to go unnoticed and unappreciated. So we need to guard our hearts against our quiet pity parties. We need to see that God is using motherhood to do something glorious in us: He is making us more like Christ. The heart work that God wants to do in us is to teach us how to love as He loves.

As we pour ourselves out for our children, God is changing us and giving us a deeper understanding of true love. With the help of His Spirit, God enables us to love for the sake of someone else. He is turning us outward when we could easily turn inward.

Yes, true love is costly and sacrificial. It requires that we lay down our lives for our children, and this kind of love gives—even if no one notices. After all, God first loved us, long before we ever loved Him back. May we as moms learn to love like that.

Father, I confess that I am still learning how to truly love. Forgive me for the times when I love with the expectation of getting something in return. I can’t love the way I want to love on my own, so give me Your strength to love sacrificially. Give me grace to love for the good of others and not just for what I might get in return. Help me lay down my life just as Jesus laid down His life for me. In Jesus’ name, amen.


  • Appreciation and respect are good things, but how can they become idols?
  • Take a minute and read 1 John 3:16 again. In what ways are moms to imitate Christ’s love?


Trusted author Ruth Schwenk of Pressing Pause and The Better Mom blog will help you learn to give yourself grace as you grow in wisdom with The Better Mom Devotional. As a busy mom of four kids, Ruth understands the stress of raising a family and trying to do it all perfectly, but she has uncovered a secret: becoming a better mom starts not with what you are doing but with who God is inviting you to become.


Excerpt used with permission from The Better Mom Devo below.


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