I got married almost eight years ago. I remember that time of our life so fondly. It was a fun and exciting time – full of passion for one another and peacefulness. Our problems were small. If you are in that season of your marriage, or pre-marriage, I pray that you treasure it with all your heart. Because the truth is, life happens. Usually when you least expect it.
We weren’t Christians during that time. We were young and naïve and didn’t have a lot of life experience – at least none with any substance. I’m not saying that in a bad way, we just hadn’t been jaded by life nor its worldly temptations. We had a big wedding, full of cultural touches from my husband’s Portuguese heritage. There were several scriptures shared – handpicked by our favorite priest. It is only now, eight years later that I truly appreciate those blessed verses.
The scripture that was spoken over us on our wedding day was Colossians 3:12-17,
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.”
Now that we’ve survived many bumps in the road, problems, burdens, and broken-hearts; there is one thing that I know to be true – our God is a God who restores.
I can’t help but believe that even while we were ‘barely-believers’ that God had a plan for us. And on that early October day, as we stood in His house, beneath His cross and the priest spoke that scripture over our marriage, that a deep covenant was woven between the three of us. Even though it still took us six more years to give our hearts over to Jesus, He had a wild plan for us full of grace and mercy for one another.
Life happens. Tears get shed. Hearts get broken. But God restores.
And I pray that scripture over each one of your marriages and challenge you to believe in Colossians 3:12-17 with all of your heart. I challenge you to forgive your spouse and let peace rule in your heart. Be compassionate. I challenge you to be gentle with your spouse and to love him. I challenge you to let Christ dwell inside of you and your marriage and submit yourself to Christ. Take every wrong-doing and accusation to God first. Take your brokenness to Him and let him mend you, heal you. Restore you.
What a wild ride it has been – only eight years in. What a joy it is to see what God can restore in your marriage and to be able to worship Jesus with my husband, singing hymns of praise and gratitude. I have never been as confident in my marriage as I am today, now that I put God first. With my savior leading the way, I know we will never be led astray.