This series began with Revive Your Prayers In Marriage, then we encouraged wives to Revive Your Attitude, Revive Your Friendship, and Revive Your Praise… now we are wrapping up with this post Revive Your Sex Life In Marriage!
Sex and Intimacy in marriage have always been a struggle for me. I feel inadequate trying to inspire others in this area when it has been such a sensitive area in my own marriage, yet I have a story… one that I hope will at least encourage those of you who for some reason struggle in this area of marriage. My message to you is that you are not alone!
The pain that is sometimes encountered during sexual intimacy, whether it is emotional pain or physical pain, can affect the marriage relationship in great ways. I have experienced hardships that stir because of lack of intimacy and my heart is heavy for others who endure them. Unveiled Wife was created because of my experience, as I felt the urge to share a platform for wives to talk about these hardships in marriage in hopes of building a community of encouragement where we can encounter healing!
Please watch the video below to hear a glimpse of my testimony.
There are many reasons why a couple’s sex life can be a struggle. Mine was due to a physical pain I experienced during intercourse. Although I went through seasons of feeling like an inadequate wife, depression, loneliness and even contemplated divorce… God gave me hope to try and try again to have sex with my husband. We have prayed so much about this one area of our marriage.
A great resource that helped me better understand sex in marriage, including God’s great design of male and female sexual needs, and the importance of sex and intimacy in marriage was Dr. Juli Slattery’s No More Headaches. I highly recommend reading this!
Instead of giving up, we made small advances to create an atmosphere of intimacy, even if the end result wasn’t intercourse. My husband and I would spend time just being vulnerable in each other’s company. So I encourage you to do the same! Do not stress out about the anticipation of sex, rather find ways to just bless each other in ways that work.
This weeks challenge is to revive your sex life in marriage through creating an atmosphere of intimacy and vulnerability.
There are many ways you can do this, have courage and do something that you and your husband don’t usually do. For some it might be as simple as lighting candles to set the mood, for others it could be offering a back massage. I have found that talking to my husband about the particulars of our struggle often fed my hope to try something new in our relationship.
Also, I know initiating can be very difficult for some of you, but have courage my friend!
“For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.” – 2 Timothy 1:7
Have you experienced an intimacy struggle in your marriage?
What are some other reasons why people may struggle with sexual intimacy?
What are more ways couples can revive their sex life?