Our house is still under construction. Last week, our goal was to purchase our appliances, specifically a refrigerator, washer, and dryer. We needed the exact dimensions so that we could order the appropriate size cabinets to fill the space around our appliances.
We have never had to buy a single appliance before in our marriage. The places we have stayed had appliances! Needless to say, this was one adventure I could live with only doing once with my husband, but I doubt that will be the case.
Aaron and I have different buying tactics. I like to feel my way through stores and settle on the appliances that makes the most sense functionality wise. My husband is obsessive about researching online and reading reviews. I appreciate his concern and willingness to search for the best deal, but in this situation it slowed us down just a bit. Every appliance seemed to have at least one negative review. And spending so much money on an appliance with a potential problem was a big red-flag for my husband.
You can check out our experience shopping by watching our latest family Vlog! You will also catch our son being a transformer and constantly talking about it and our daughter giving us her first kisses!
This is the Kenmore washer and dryer we decided to go with:
We also got this scratch and dent Kenmore fridge for almost $1500 off the listed price!! I don’t have an in-store photo but this is the one we are getting:
How can a husband and wife shop for appliances and keep their marriage strong?
….Because we know spending big bucks can cause some major contention…
The biggest thing is communication! Sharing your thoughts respectfully and taking the time to truly listen to each other is the key!
I had some preferences, such as desiring a top loading versus a front loading washer, and for some reason the way the handles on the fridge felt when opening was a particular preference I had.
My husband wanted the front loading washer and strongly desired to come in under budget, but at the same time not forsaking quality.
We went through several stores and gave each other room to share thoughts we had, taking into account what we were noticing about each appliance. We also took our time to purchase and devoted several hours to the process. By rushing through something like this, it becomes a stressor for all involved, and preferences may get looked over, which will add more tension once the appliances are in the house being used.
The other important key is going into this with an open mind and a willing heart. Both of you will need to accept that you will both need to be willing to give up certain preferences to find an agreeable and wise decision on a purchase. Be willing to give up some of your desires to meet the needs of your spouse. I think with a willing heart, much of the contention from a big purchase like this can be diffused.
**Specific note to wives…remember that we are called by God to be submissive to our own husbands.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.” – Ephesians 5:22
This verse doesn’t give an exception when we are appliance shopping! So don’t let your husband’s desires to make a decision that might be contrary to your desires become a stronghold for you or an opportunity to bring division into your marriage. Don’t let your pride fight in a disrespectful way for what you want, its just not worth it. Be willing to submit to and trust your husband in this area. And if you do feel strongly about anything in the process, pray and ask God to direct your husband as he leads you through the purchasing.
In our situation, after much deliberation, Aaron kindly compromised and let me get my top loading washer and I said okay to the scatch-n-dent fridge.
Also, keep in mind that your marriage relationship is way more important than the money being spent and the appliances being bought. At the end of the day, you will want to know that you both are in agreement, you both took time to research and listen to each other, and together you made the final decision, as a supportive team.
Don’t let the stress of a situation like this come between you two as a wall you will have to mount later. Instead, take time to consider all sides to the problem and search for a solution together, peaceably, humbly, respectfully. Do this and you will keep your marriage!
If you have appliances you absolutely love please share in the comments so that others who are shopping can have a good list to start from!