embrace your marriage series

Bringing Out The Worst – That’s What Friends Are For

My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me. – Henry Ford My husband is truly my best friend and throughout our marriage he has brought out the best in me. Through words of confidence and encouragement my husband has inspired me to do things in life I would have otherwise allowed my doubt and fear to cripple me and hinder me from doing. He has taught me how to love, how to be compassionate, how to be generous, and how to serve others. I have already raved about how the woman I am today is because of my husband, you can read my thankfulness to him for bringing the best out in me HERE. And yet, I feel as though

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Why Can’t I Spend My Money The Way I Want?

    It’s your fault we are even in this mess.     The debt isn’t mine, it’s all yours. They’re your school loans.     What you spend on your debt, I should get to spend on what I want.     I really wish you didn’t bring this debt into our marriage.     It’s your debt, your problem. The rude and disrespectful thoughts turned to snide comments, all resting on my husband’s shoulders. I used whichever one would be the most provoking to get my point across in every argument we had. This is an excerpt from my upcoming book The Unveiled Wife. The Unveiled Wife is my journey as a new wife and the challenge I faced of embracing oneness in marriage. I often times separated

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10 Reasons I Love You – A Letter To My Husband

My Dearest Love, My Best Friend, My Husband, I remember when we were dating I knew I loved you deeply. I could not hold it in my heart any longer. As I was getting out of your car, I leaned back in with courage overflowing and said three sweet words that were of utmost significance to me, “I love you.” My heart was overwhelmed when you received what I said and reciprocated how much you love me. We were on the same page and we were eager to grow in our love. We have spent the last ten years getting to know each other well. Our personalities could not be more different, our strengthens and weaknesses could not be more opposite, yet through the years we

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Why Can’t We Move On?

For the first three and a half years of our marriage, my husband and I could not experience intercourse. Pain radiated throughout my body every time we initiated or attempted sexual intimacy. I knew sex might be difficult to get use to in the beginning, so although I was mortified on the wedding night that things did not work out as I had hoped for, I overcame my thoughts of inadequacies quickly. However, when weeks turned into years, my insecurities grew wildly out of control. I anticipated the pain of sex, which tempted me to withhold myself from my husband often. One night of excuses led to weeks of trying to get out of having sex. I was giving up. And due to our lack of

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I Didn’t Want My Husband Anymore

We were four years into our marriage and I was not happy. Marriage was hard and the challenges we were confronted with chipped away at my faith for our future. I didn’t want my husband anymore…I wanted someone new, someone who would fulfill my desires, someone perfect. I wrote on this issue before in an article titled, “How My Husband Found Out About My Secret Affair.” You can click the title to read it. I never physically cheated on my husband, but I explain in the article how I emotionally and mentally sinned against my husband by lusting after another man. I felt justified. My marriage was failing and I convinced myself the butterflies I got when I daydreamed about being with someone else meant that

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Embrace Your Marriage: A Virtual Marriage Retreat

This is the 3rd annual marriage series I have participated in! The first year we gathered together was in 2012 for Revive Your Marriage and then in 2013 we launched Ignite The Fire. {Click the titles to check them out!} This year we are adding a few more marriage bloggers to the mix to bring you a virtual marriage retreat titled Embrace Your Marriage. I am thrilled to be digging into this marriage series with you because it gives us some topics to really focus tightly on. In the past these series always receive great interaction, which stimulates and encourages growth within our hearts. I strongly believe marriage issues should be talked about more openly and more often so that people do not feel so

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