The Meaning Of Marriage

This is the final chapter review for The Meaning Of Marriage – Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Timothy Keller.  I have really enjoyed this book and the depth that is exposed regarding marriage and singleness according to God’s Word.  I highly recommend that this book be on everyone’s bookshelf! Also, if you want to catch a glimpse of some of the chewy morsels from this book, please check out the other chapter reviews!  You can easily navigate to them via the buttons at the bottom of this page! Chapter 8 – Sex and Marriage […]

Chapter 7 – Singleness and Marriage Why does Timothy Keller address singles in a marriage book? “The answer is that single people cannot live their lives well as singles without a balanced, informed view of marriage.” (192) I agree with Keller on this. So many times people, whether single or married, have a distorted view of relationships.  I believe it is important for everyone to educate themselves on marriage, specifically God’s intentions for marriage, whether they get married or not. Keller dives into this chapter by sharing a little historical background on the family unit.  In older cultures it was […]

Chapter 6 – Embracing The Other This chapter is written by Kathy Keller, TImothy’s wife.  She graciously addresses the often times controversial issue of gender roles in marriage. She begins by stating, “..the differences between men and women will become an unavoidable issue in every marriage.” (170) Every husband and wife enters marriage with some sort of expectation for gender roles, based off how they were raised, other contributing elements in one’s culture such as friends or even television shows, and personal preference. No matter what one’s views are regarding gender roles in marriage, I absolutely agree with Kathy as […]

Chapter Five – Loving The Stranger Do we all marry strangers? I believe love for another is the main motivator in people willing to commit a life long union in marriage.  However, marriage has its way of revealing more about a person in depth. The question “Did I marry a total stranger?” may cross one’s mind as they are rudely awakened by shortcomings or failures in their spouse, things which could only have been seen after the vows. “We begin to feel that we did not really know the person after all.  And this presents us with the challenge of loving […]

Chapter Four – The Mission Of Marriage The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2:18 The Bible begins by acknowledging that marriage is a friendship.  The entire world had just been created, a marvelous wonder of epic creativity, yet God knew that life would still not be good for man without the element of companionship. God gave woman to man as a gift of companionship. “That is why even in paradise, loneliness was a terrible thing.  That is why we should not be […]

Chapter 3 Review – The Essence Of Marriage Essence: The most important ingredient; the crucial element. ( Keller explains in this chapter that the most important ingredient in marriage is love.  However, not just passionate, emotional feelings of love, but the commitment and covenant of love derived through actions.   He states on page 78: “But when the Bible speaks of love, it measures it primarily not by how much you want to receive it but by how much you are willing to give yourself to someone else.” The essence of marriage, he says, “is a sacrificial commitment to the good […]

Chapter 2 – The Power for Marriage Every marriage faces challenges.  This chapter explains why we face challenges and how to get through them without experiencing damage to the relationship.  Keller opens with a passage of scripture: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” – Ephesians 5:21 A person who submits to another out of reverence for Christ is filled with the Holy Spirit.  The Holy Spirit is what empowers that person to humbly serve another.  The power for marriage is the power of the Holy Spirit working within one’s life.  Keller explains on page 51, “Only if […]

The Introduction I don’t want to hesitate to tell you that The Meaning Of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Timothy and Kathy Keller is an excellent book and a great resource to encourage growth in marriage.  I decided to review this book in parts in correlation to the chapters, that way you can follow along with me and see how this book impacts my marriage!   Timothy and Kathy have been married over 37 years.  Much of their marriage experience, along with Timothy’s experience as a Pastor are the major contributing components to […]