What Matters Most In Marriage

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photo by @samciurdar

Lately, I have been finding myself wanting to freeze little moments in time and remember them forever. I think its easy to remember the “big moments” in your life – your first kiss with your spouse, your wedding, your first house, etc. All of these are amazingly great memories for me, but in the midst of life lately, I find myself wanting to cherish the little things/feelings.

I want to remember the way I feel when my husband looks at me with so much love in his eyes. I want to remember the way I feel when I’m so mad and on the verge of yelling then he makes me smile so big and I forget what I was even saying. I want to remember waking up at 3 a.m. and watching him sleep and feeling like my heart could burst from how much I love him.

When you are in the final days of your life, what will you want? Will you hug that college degree in the walnut frame? Will you ask to be carried to the garage so you can sit in your car? Will you find comfort in rereading your financial statement? Of course not. What will matter then will be people. If relationships will matter most then, shouldn’t they matter most now? – Max Lucado

That is what I want. The world seems to be screaming “get more stuff,” “go on vacation,” “have a huge career,” and “save more money.” When I look back on my life, I don’t want to measure it by how much “stuff” we have, or how successful we were at work. I want to remember the little moments with my husband and the people close to me. I want to live a life filled with love and grace. My hearts desire is that my life would be a living testimony of my love for Christ and others around me.

However, this is easier said than done. It is so easy to get caught up in stuff or events in your life. My husband and I recently moved into our first home and have felt like our life has been revolving around “stuff”. Because of course when you move from a two bedroom apartment to a house, you have a lot of empty rooms and kitchen cabinets that are itching to be filled. I have been combating this desire to want more. I guess you could probably say that is why I am trying to focus more on the little moments in life and people in my life that truly matter.

I want my life and my marriage to look less like the world and more like Christ.

I know that I can only accomplish this through my relationship with Him.

If I am not actively pursing a relationship with Christ, how can my life and marriage look more like Him?

My prayer is that you would actively seek Christ today and a relationship with Him. Because ultimately, that is the most important relationship you can have. It is what matters most.

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