My Marriage Is Not My Happily Ever After

This lovely guest post is written by Brittany. She brings an often forgotten aspect of our marriages to light in an enchantingly open way.Mymarriageisnot

Brittany Writes: 

I will never forget the first time I watched Snow White. She was just an innocent girl in need of someone to save her. I cried as her stepmother turned on her and cheered as Prince Charming swept her away.

Her life was a dream and soon I found myself believing that this is the ultimate picture of what marriage should be.

As I grew older I found myself searching for my own hero and believing that the ‘perfect’ man would soon sweep me off my feet and make all of my dreams come true.

I wanted a romance like in the movies.

I’m sure you can imagine my surprise when I got married and realized that happily ever after didn’t look quite like I expected!

I still believe that happily ever after is possible but my perspective on how our happily ever after happens has changed. You see, I believed that my husband would be my hero. I thought that he would be the one to save me from danger and protect my heart.

But that’s just not true.

My husband is absolutely wonderful but he is also human and is subject to failure just like everyone else.

I gave my husband an impossible task when I made him my one and only hero. This led to disappointment when he wasn’t perfect.

Now I know that God is my one and only Hero!

God’s love will never let me or my husband down. God’s grace can save me from sins. God’s peace can calm my heart when there is no hope in sight.

My husband loves me unconditionally and will always be my best friend and partner in life but when it comes to a hero only my God will do!

In Acts 4:12 it says, ‘Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.’ Whenever I read this I am reminded that I have salvation in Christ alone.

No matter how much my husband loves me, he cannot be my Savior.

Likewise in Ephesians 5:22-30 we learn that the husband’s role is to love his wife and lead his family to Christ. Whenever I pictured our happily ever after I imagined that my husband would be my hero but now I know the truth.

My husband isn’t my hero, but he does point me to the One who is!

Marriage is meant to be a picture of how Christ loves His church. Someday Christ will come like a bridegroom to take His people away to Heaven. He is our perfect hero and the One who will never let us down.

It is an indescribable comfort to know that someday we will live happily ever after in Heaven with the One and only true Hero! Until then, I plan on enjoying every minute with my husband, loving our life and serving God together.

I still believe in having a happily ever after marriage but it looks a little different now. I see my husband as my partner as we spend our life together.

God is our Hero and Heaven is our prize.

Together, we look forward to being swept off our feet and carried to eternity in Heaven with our true Hero and Savior.

By Brittany

Brittany is a writer at GraceLoveLife.com. Grace, Love, Life is a place where wives come to practice grace and celebrate love marriage and their relationship with the Lord. Brittany and her ‘Prince Charming’ have been married for one year and currently live in Kentucky.Our Wedding

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