Sex & Intimacy In Marriage

Sex and intimacy are key elements of marriage and they are topics that proved to be the greatest hardships in my marriage. I am still learning the importance of sex and intimacy, and I feel there are many other wives like me who need more knowledge and encouragement in this area of marital oneness. I hope that our Christian culture will make it easier to talk about sex and intimacy so that others are aware of its relevance in marriage.

Attack (definition): take aggressive action against (a place or enemy forces) with weapons or armed force typically in a battle or war. I have them often. I find I usually have them right before GOD is doing something HUGE in my life. They are awful, down right horrible at times. Attacks are not something I ever want, pray for or desire for anyone…but in a weird peaceful way they make me smile looking at them through God’s eyes. I sometimes become numb in the attack and do not feel the excruciating pain because God allows me to see the attack through […]

I will cut to the chase on sharing with you how my husband found out about my secret affair… I told him. It was not easy, in fact it was a painful experience for both of us.  We were driving in the car when the conviction to come clean overwhelmed my heart.  I wanted to stuff it down into a dark crevice never to be unearthed. I wanted to accept the lie that I shouldn’t tell him, that it wouldn’t be worth it.  I wanted to pretend like it never happened. But more than that…I wanted the brokenness in my […]

I had the incredible honor of being able to interview Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow this week! As I woke up early Thursday morning, I was eager to chat with these two brave and godly women who are paving the way for Christians to openly discuss intimate issues. Dr. Juli Slattery wrote a book titled “No More Headaches” that revolutionized my perspective of sex in marriage and it was one of the first book reviews I have shared with the UW Community.  I highly recommend it to every wife I connect with. This week was a little rough.  My […]

The Unveiled Wife Ministry has evolved over the years.  Many of the articles posted are related to marriage topics that are relevant and helpful to wives.  Looking at this title you may wonder what parabens have to do with marriage, but my words may surprise you! As I share on my About page {which you can read HERE} my husband and I could not have sex for the first four years of our marriage.  Pain seized my body every time that we attempted to have sex.  In November of 2010 my husband was reminded of a story we heard of a […]

While there are many parts to a God-honoring marriage, one important factor is satisfying sexual intimacy that honors Him. So how can the church support and encourage deep physical connection in marriage? How can we wives support each other’s intimate lives? 1. Speak well of godly intimacy. All too often, wives speak ill of sex and the husbands who want it. Too many Christian women dismiss its significance in marriage, mock husbands who desire sex more frequently, mention using sex as a bartering tool (“If he wants sex, he has to clean the garage first”), or clam up about the […]

Intimacy is making yourself known as you get to know your spouse deeply.  Having an intimate relationship with your husband is important as security and trust is cultivated.  Establishing an intimate relationship with your husband provides a firm foundation where he will feel comfortable to talk to you about anything going on in his life, while knowing he is loved and cherished. Intimacy has its greatest impact in conversation, where you get to know each other as you share the deep parts of your hearts. It is imperative that you brush up on your question asking skills.  Instead of asking […]

I recently came across a discussion on the UW Facebook page within the comments of an article I had posted – an article that talked about sex and intimacy in marriage.  It was a creative article, written by my friend J, a new spin on a well known Christmas poem, “Twas The Night Before Christmas.” The last few lines are really powerful in my opinion, which was my biggest motivation to publish the article: You laughed with joy, he responded with a whistle, “Now that was a Christmas Eve with some sizzle!” And then he spoke with whispered delight: “Thank you, […]

  Almost before you can say “Clement Clark Moore” three times fast, Christmas will be here. But with great respect to this author of the marvelous poem “The Night Before Christmas,” and in honor of your marital intimacy, I’ve adjusted Moore’s words just a little. I encourage you to keep your marriage and your sexual intimacy a priority, even as your schedule can feel crowded and your days short. Keep focused on your relationship with your husband. Keep connected spiritually, emotionally, and physically. And keep your playfulness alive through the busy holiday season. “Twas The Intimate Night Before Christmas” ‘Twas the […]

It is important that we do not lose sight of the value of marriage.  Just as we tend to other significant priorities in life, we must never abandon our responsibility to tend to our marriage. I know the demands of life can often times keep you so busy that you don’t have a minute to think of a creative way to spice things up in your marriage…so I am here to help! Please join me over at The Better Mom where I share 18 Simple Tricks To Spice Up Your Marriage including some of these: 5. Pillow talk! Spend time […]

What is intimacy to you? Chances are you picture hugs, and long talks staring deeply into each other’s eyes, and holding hands, and even enjoying the silence together. We love feeling totally emotionally connected to another human being–especially our husbands. Yet most husbands’ definition of intimacy would likely involve far less clothing and far more action. To them, intimacy tends to be sexual. When we open ourselves up sexually, they feel invigorated, accepted, and needed. Because we both view intimacy differently, though, it’s easy to withdraw when we don’t feel like our needs are being met. When he doesn’t listen […]

Sex according to God’s design includes great physical pleasure, but also involves your emotions and your soul. You connect deeply and intimately with your husband as you share something unique to your relationship: the sexual joining of your bodies that represents and nurtures your covenant love. But perhaps you and your husband aren’t feeling that deep connection. Here are three quick tips for more intimate lovemaking in your marriage: 1. Explore how you like to be touched. Your body did not come with an instruction manual on your wedding night. Your husband also does not have an innate sense of […]

Confession time. In the 13 years since I have been married I have rarely prayed with my husband. While it’s true that I have been present when he has prayed, listening intently to his conversation with God, I have not been a part of those prayers. I am one of those people who is very uncomfortable with praying out loud, in front of others. I just don’t do it. However, praying with my husband should be easier, right? He is one of the few people who loves me unconditionally. He knows me better than any other person. He has seen […]

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