Fights & Disagreements In Marriage

Stop Doing This When You Get Angry

I use to believe that anger was something that happened to me. When I felt angry, I felt like I was a victim of anger, as if it controlled me, and I just had to let it run its course until it sputtered out. I feel like comparing it to a cold virus. It comes on strong and I just have to wait until it passes. This type of thinking is wrong. If you do this when you get angry…if you believe anger controls you and that it has to run its course…you need to stop thinking this way. You may be thinking now: How do I stop being angry? My husband did this… My child keeps doing this… My mom said this… My sister

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I Can Sit Here Forever

How often do you picture sitting by your spouse, peacefully growing old together?  Some relationships can’t see past the fight that broke out two days before. Carrying the weight of pride, stubbornness, anger, resentment and jealousy hinders the awesome power that marriage holds. Sin severs intimacy. A husband and wife have a beautiful opportunity to grow closer with time. This is unique and no other relationship is like it. However, a husband and wife will not grow closer together by happenstance. Sure a husband and wife can stay true to their vows and faithful in marriage and sure they may sit closer to one another in their older age, but I am not referring to a close proximity. What I mean is growing closer together through

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Does It Hurt Your Marriage To Go To Bed Angry?

I jumped online to chat with the Unveiled Wife Facebook community, inviting people to say hi or ask a question. I was hoping for a little chat. As more people began to hop on and share their hearts, I saw a reoccurring question: Does it hurt your marriage to go to bed angry? When I read that question I immediately started to remember all of the many arguments that left my husband and me angry toward one another. My husband is the type to want to work things out as soon as possible. If one of us is upset, everything comes to halt until its worked out. This use to make me cringe. I have always hid my feelings…in not so subtle ways. I would be obviously

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What Is Escapism? And Is It Destroying Your Marriage?

Escapism is defined by Google, as the tendency to seek distraction and relief from unpleasant realities, especially by seeking entertainment or engaging in fantasy. I did this. The reality of my marriage was one that I didn’t like and didn’t want to accept. By our third year of marriage, I was ready to escape any way that I could. I desired to numb the emotional pain that flared up because of unmet expectations of marriage and unmet expectations of how I thought God would and should bless our marriage. Our relationship was falling apart and I didn’t know how to fix it. My heart was fragile. And instead of turning to God in my despair…I isolated myself from Him. This is when I experienced and

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Forgive Him. Even If He Is Not Sorry.

Marriage is hard. Although a husband and wife love each other, there are  conflicts that arise and offenses that hurt. Without apology and forgiveness, marriages would not be happy nor thriving. What happens when your spouse does not want to apologize? What happens when you don’t want to forgive? I want to encourage you today. Apologizing and forgiving are not always easy to initiate and follow through with…but doing so will heal the brokenness in your heart and your relationship. The Word of God says, Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you

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I Wish I Had A Reset Button For Marriage

My husband pointed out that it often times seems difficult for me to embrace him after we have had an argument or disagreement. In my mind I thought, “Yeah that’s true.” But I don’t know why that is true of me and I don’t want to hurt him. Sometimes I just shut down. Not knowing how to respond, I told my husband, I wish I had a reset button.” He reached his hand across my face and pushed my forehead with a gentle nudge of his pointer finger, while making a silly sound effect. Oh how I wish it were that simple. There have been plenty of times that my husband comes to me in humility to attempt reconciliation. As much as I appreciate his courage

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