Fights & Disagreements In Marriage

Do You Have This Characteristic Of God?

Psalm 86. Before I go on, would you take a minute to open up your Bible and read Psalm 86 or click HERE to read it? There it was…one line that stood out boldly from the rest. Verse 5. For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive…“ David penned that God is ready to forgive. I had to stop at this point and reread it. Feeling compelled by the Holy Spirit I evaluated my heart, Am I ready to forgive? The truth is I’m am not always ready to forgive, especially in my relationship with my husband. There have been many times that I dwell on the negative, I consider the circumstances before I consider who my husband is, I contemplate how things will

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The Most Important Phrase I Say Toward My Husband

My husband and I agreed years ago that we would say “I forgive you” when attempting to reconcile in marriage. I use to use phrases such as: It’s fine.      Okay.            Sure.                  Whatever. Okay being one of the most used of the bunch. However, if either of us ever avoided the word “forgive” the conflict always resurfaced and triggered another argument. Forgive represents resolute, finished, completed. Without the acknowledgment of that word, our tender hearts could never fully reconcile because the wounds of offense still oozing. Then we had a conversation about how words are powerful and saying words out loud carry the weight of either life or death. Words are

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Competing With A Memory: 5 Ways To Build A Healthy Marriage When Marrying A Widower

This is a special guest article written with all the wives in mind who are married to a widower. I hope this encourages you today! Mandy writes: Every marriage has its share of struggles. Marrying a widower is no exception and actually presents its own set of challenges. My husband Joe lost his first wife after 2 years of marriage. She died at the young age of 31 battling Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma. It’s a very sad story of a young, newly-married couple receiving a stage IV diagnosis and then having only 7 short months to say their goodbyes. I met Joe years after Stacy had passed. We fell in love and married. Everything was great at first, but I always felt like I was, in some

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Learning How To Validate My Husband’s Feelings

Social media, has been a great way for me to quickly write down and communicate what is happening in my marriage and what I am leaning through my experiences. I also hope that those who read my updates are inspired to evaluate and really look at their marriage, but more importantly their impact on their marriage. Recently I posted an update on Facebook, shortly after hurting my husband and getting us into a bit of an argument. Post by Unveiled Wife. After going through some of the comments in response to what I said, a few women simply stated they did not understand what I meant. When I saw that, I thought I would take a moment to explain it further, right here! Validating feelings

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This Just Happened Today And I Am Embarressed

Sitting in the car today I stared out the window stirring with frustrations. A particular part of parenting was not meeting my expectations. I stuffed and then exploded…towards my husband and in front of my kid.  I yelled and screamed as words flew out of my mouth unbridled.  When we pulled into our driveway, I got to the end of my dramatic rant then excused myself into the house. I went straight to my room to the throw the covers over my head hoping I would wake from a bad dream. I had no peace. Half of me justified staying there until my husband came to the rescue, while the other half felt the conviction of The Holy Spirit to go apologize.  After a few minutes passed

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Is Your Marriage Being Attacked?

Attack (definition): take aggressive action against (a place or enemy forces) with weapons or armed force typically in a battle or war. I have them often. I find I usually have them right before GOD is doing something HUGE in my life. They are awful, down right horrible at times. Attacks are not something I ever want, pray for or desire for anyone…but in a weird peaceful way they make me smile looking at them through God’s eyes. I sometimes become numb in the attack and do not feel the excruciating pain because God allows me to see the attack through His eyes and it better helps me to understand why I am where I am. The enemy HATES ME! Praise GOD, the enemy HATES ME because I

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