Sex & Intimacy In Marriage

Sex and intimacy are key elements of marriage and they are topics that proved to be the greatest hardships in my marriage. I am still learning the importance of sex and intimacy, and I feel there are many other wives like me who need more knowledge and encouragement in this area of marital oneness. I hope that our Christian culture will make it easier to talk about sex and intimacy so that others are aware of its relevance in marriage.

I post on my Facebook page regularly. The Community of wives that are part of the page are significant to me. I have been posting marriage encouragement on Facebook for the last 4 years everyday, every three hours during the day. Sometimes I am able to schedule out posts in advance, but the majority of my posts are live. I share what I am feeling and what God is teaching me. This helps me be authentic with the UW Community and it forces me to rely on God to inspire what I should post about. I want to be relevant […]

Spending quality time with your spouse is a must! Your marriage is significant and needs to be nurtured to maintain healthy. Do not let excuses like “We are just busy” get in the way of what really matters. Your husband matters. You matter! So be intentional today to do at least one of these simple ways of spending time with your husband: 1. Don’t be too serious. Tell jokes, play, laugh! Life can definitely present seasons of hardships, but we need to keep a positive perspective to avoid becoming a nagging spouse. Be creative and be willing to have fun amidst the […]

I had a wife email me, asking me how I got over the pain from my husband confessing his addiction to pornography. It took me a minute to figure out how to respond to her. I wanted to share with her because I know in my heart I truly forgive my husband and I have been able to move past the offenses. I also wanted to encourage her because my husband and I are more intimate in our marriage now, than we ever have been…and I hoped that her and her husband could attain that too. I know God has healed […]

That’s right! I am caught in a love triangle! I bet you never would have guessed this marriage blogger would say such a thing, let alone condone that you should be in one too?! But the truth is, no marriage is truly complete without one..well without this specific one! The love triangle I am suggesting and referring to is the love between me, my husband and God. When I first became a wife, although I desired to honor God in my marriage, I was more focused on pleasing my husband and becoming one with him. I admit that there came […]

No More Headaches, Enjoying Sex and Intimacy In Marriage is the number one book on my list of great reads! Dr. Juli Slattery encompasses the gift of sex God has created within the boundaries of marriage, sharing examples of her own marriage, as well as others marital testimonials. Each story is unique, yet relatable and relative, provoking the reader to examine his/her own marriage. She dives into heavy topics without hesitation, providing wisdom and knowledge about what is permissible within the covenant of marriage, not with black and white rules, but allowing the reader to comprehend and conclude for themselves […]

This is a testimony from another wife in the Unveiled Wife community who felt compelled to share the most difficult moment in her marriage surrounding the topic of pornography, passionately desiring to give others hope who are facing the same devastation! Robi writes: (This article discusses my first encounter with my husband’s pornography addiction. At that time, I felt very alone and sometimes I still feel like there are no other Christian wives that go through this pain. Yet, I know there are many wives that are experiencing this difficult trial in marriage. I pray and hope to unite wives that […]

This article is based on just one topic of many mentioned in my book The Unveiled Wife. I wanted to share about this topic more in-depth on my blog to give you all the more insight into one of the things I was dealing with as a young bride. Three years into my marriage, I was burdened beneath the weight of a secret that was tormenting me. I was convinced that I made a mistake getting married, not because I chose to marry my best friend, but rather because I was wrestling with the thought of being gay. I had never struggled […]

My body was broken and it hindered me from being able to have sex with my husband. We suffered for years, unable to physically connect as one flesh. I can count on one hand the amount of times we actually had intercourse in the first three and half years of our marriage, none of which were enjoyable. I tried pushing through the pain I experienced every time we tried to have sex, but nothing seemed to work.  I hate that we even referred to having sex as “trying” when all I wanted was for it to be completely fulfilling. At […]

For the first three and a half years of our marriage, my husband and I could not experience intercourse. Pain radiated throughout my body every time we initiated or attempted sexual intimacy. I knew sex might be difficult to get use to in the beginning, so although I was mortified on the wedding night that things did not work out as I had hoped for, I overcame my thoughts of inadequacies quickly. However, when weeks turned into years, my insecurities grew wildly out of control. I anticipated the pain of sex, which tempted me to withhold myself from my husband often. […]

The master bedroom should be a place for couples to relax, re-energize and enjoy each other. I had read an article many years ago stating this wonderful idea and it has stuck with me ever since. I have always tried to keep our bedroom a special place. I decorated the room with candles and kept the piles of clutter away. I would make the bed each morning. I hung pictures of our wedding on the wall. My husband and I also created a wonderful piece of art together by painting our bodies and pressing them onto a canvas, but you […]

Recently, I sat down and interviewed my husband regarding sex. I figured by doing this, I would kill two birds with one stone. For one, I would learn more about what my husband prefers… sexually. And two, I would have a steamy article topic for Unveiled Wife. What I didn’t expect, was to find out that not all guys can be stigmatized with the same shallow views about sex. It’s my hope that by sharing this with you, you may see things from a man’s perspective. And that it will possibly give you a little deeper insight into your man. […]

Not too long ago a brave Unveiled Wife Contributor, Shannon Chilson, transparently shared her personal struggle with pornography.  Her words resonated with me and many other women. It is an issue that isn’t really talked about, especially in Christian environments, the very places we desire to find help from our vices. We need to address the issue of pornography and the truth that women are just as tempted to sin sexually as men are.  Our culture has ingrained in our minds that pornography is a man’s struggle. It is indeed a man’s struggle, and my prayer is that a revolution happens where men stand against this […]

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